5 Question for fujoshis from a gay guy
Ok so I've seen a lot of comments here that either pique my interest, or just really annoy me as a gay man, and they are more often than not from straight women reading yaoi.
So, I was hoping people could answer some questions.
1) Why do a lot of fujoshis wish that they were gay men, it's really fucking hard to be a gay man. We don't just revolve around butt sex. Is it because of the difficulties of being a woman and dealing with straight men?
2) Why are fem characters in yaoi so looked down on and called stereotypes? I'm a fem gay man, I wear makeup,I have long hair etc, but I'm still a man. I am not a woman nor do I wish to be one.
3) Why are so many fujoshis obsessed with the uke - seme dynamic? Like fem and skinny automatically means uke and vice versa, and god forbid there be switches. Gay relationships are not like that IRL, and it irks me when people say it's gross.
4) Why do you personally read yaoi? Like I read it, but mostly AI, because there's so little gay media? To me it just feels a bit odd, and some obsess over it to the point that it's like when straight guys obsess over lesbian porn.
5) This isn't a question, so much as just asking people to please stop referring to IRL gay men and relationships as yaoi. We aren't porn for you.
Sorry if some of these probably sounded a bit aggressive, and tbh they are, because I'm getting frustrated with some repeated comments I see. Particularly about fem gay men.
Queer AFAB person here who has been trying to call fujoshi out forever. There's such a thing as enjoying BL and not fetishizing gay men, including real ones. (unless you're reading fetishistic BL) Like ffs. Queer men don't exist for your entertainment. Being queer is hard af in this society. And the next time I see someone compare being a "closeted......
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Queer AFAB person here who has been trying to call fujoshi out forever. There's such a thing as enjoying BL and not fetishizing gay men, including real ones. (unless you're reading fetishistic BL) Like ffs. Queer men don't exist for your entertainment. Being queer is hard af in this society. And the next time I see someone compare being a "closeted fujoshi" to being a closeted queer person istg. Or asks if youre seme or uke. Bitch. Get your yaoi terms out of rl. I'm sorry, this gets me angry. If you want to enjoy hardcore yaoi because it gets you off, fine. If you want to enjoy fluffy romance because it makes you feel fuzzy, fine. But queer men (and queer women) are people. Humans. Don't be a creep. Be able to distinguish porn from gay stories and both from real people. When you can't separate shit it's like... Maybe you should just stop reading.
I'm also very attracted to beautiful femme men but I'm not a guy so maybe that doesn't make you feel any better. But like imho, femme gay guys are such an inspiration to me as a person still figuring out their gender. They remind me that I can dress how I like yet still identify as however. And as a black person, I know black femmes have it rough and I just...I admire my brothers so much.
05 05,2019
Yaoi has zero to do with gay men and their relationships with other gay men. Yaoi doesn't involve or come from a fetish with gay men, so you can stop worrying about it, it's not about you. I'm glad you think that queer men aren't for our entertainment. We feel the same way about it. In yaoi you will find the kind of characters that are the sole province of the female author's mind. Bluntly put, we don't care about RL gays and their relationships. It's a little tiresome to see gay men talk as if yaoi is all about them, so don't be a creep. Put your enormous ego away. Yaoi is not for you or about you.
YOO I KNOW THIS WAS MAY 1ST BUT IM JUST NOW READING THIS AND AS MLM ARE YOU MENTAL? ARE YOU INSANE? "yaoi has nothing to do with gay men or their relationships" do you know what you're fucking reading? you know yaoi is LITERALLY how straight women view OUR RELATIONSHIPS? "It's a little tiresome to see gay men talk as if yaoi is all about them" AGAIN. THIS IS HOW STRAIGHT WOMEN VIEW /OUR RELATIONSHIPS/ it has EVERYTHING to do with us. we are a Fetish for some of these straight women, just how lesbians are a fetish for straight men. you're off your fucking rockers with that take. it's not about ego. yaoi should not be dominated by female writers and female consumers, it's fetishization and it's fucking gross. THANKS!
But really you must see that yaoi is helping a lot LGBT community since people (even from countries that are a lot stricter that west) are coming in contact (even through a comic) with m/m relationships? If you are actually an adult you see crossdressers, bi, trans people for the first time and you are rooting for them. You hate the people that are shaming the protagonist because he loves another man. You learn to respect individuality and accept what people wish to be. You see that man is not a boxed idea and people can express and talk and live as they like, and they must be proud about it