Is it wrong to hate my brother?
He's the eldest out of us siblings and he's currently unemployed at age 32. He's been staying at home doing nothing but play games and eat ramen. The only times he go out is when he's out of food. This has been going on for almost 3years.
He's big in size and I'm afraid of him (he used to hit me since I was 8). I feel like walking on eggshells whenever he's around. He has major anger issue, always yelling curse words whenever things don't go his way even the smallest thing like dropping food on the floor. My parents tried to get him help but he refused them even though they kept trying.
I feel like he's an embarrassment and i hate him so much. I couldn't tell anyone because they all had good relationship with their siblings
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Damn, I would hate him too. My opinion is pretty similar to another person who replied, blood doesn't mean anything, the only thing that ties you to him is the fact that you share the same parents, and that's it, there's no emotional ties or at least no positive ties, but anyways, are you okay? ;-;
Bruh just throw him away at this point cuz I hate him too and I dont even know his ass
It's really easier said than done. I'd done it too, but because of covid and all, i think the whole family is trying to put up with it.
Just because a person is apart of your bloodline doesn't mean you have to love them. I understand why would you hate your brother. He seems like a very scary person and I hope that you don't have to deal with him soon. I'm sorry that other people don't understand where you're coming from and that you have to live with an abusive person like that in your household.
I can't say "just get rid of him" because family dynamics are weird and I'm dealing with something similar, so the only advice I can give you is to focus on what makes you happy.
It's not your fault that he is a shitty person, so there is nothing wrong with hating your brother. Just because he is your brother does not mean he gets to act like a shit head and have no consequences. Just because he is your brother does not mean he is entitled to your love, your forgiveness or that your feelings of discomfort or hatred don't matter.
I hope everything gets better soon, good luck!
Thanks, i feel like i needed to hear these. I find it uncomfortable and weird to tell a close friend about this matter (especially ones that seemed to have good relationships with their siblings). And i could tell what we're feeling is probably the same. I just needed another's view to know that my feelings make sense even if it feels wrong.
I would hate him too tbh
I feel like I'm more terrified of him than hating him tbh
Whaa? No youre justified for hating he sounds like an asshole ;-;
He does, but he has times where he's 'normal'. I just think that there's things that trigger his explosive sides, so I'm being careful not to step any