Being an EX BL GATEKEEPER

okay, so a few months ago i was the person that would say women should stop reading Bls and stuff like that, and i will explain and show how it was a product of my environnemnt.
growing up in BL circles fetishization of gay men was very frequent, most bls media would have some type of assault and women would constantly say that it was hot that there were r4pe in it, after that i grew disguted of women who read bls even the wholesome ones, and me (a gay guy) made more and more gay male friends that had the same opinion as me, we wanted women to stop reading Bls.
And i feel bad kinda. i do not want women to stop reading bls
i befriended women who would read bls with no r'pe in it and assault, who were listening to MLM , they would recommend bls stories made by queer men. and it was nice
i hope that women in the bl fandom stop fetishizing gay men(not because they read it ) but by how they act, and hope bl content stop having r4pe, assault and only smut with no storyline.