Soooo, fucked up family dynamic, what is your's like?
Anyone else's household similar to mine? I've lived in maaany places but I've never heard quite like what comes out of my house. There is screaming almost every day. Like, scream fighting. And they are usually hurtful and weaponized and trying to put the other down, trying to blame someone else, recently (past, like 3-4 years) there has also been name calling that's been added to the mix, and that's always fun (it isn't though). It hurts, it's exhausting, it's demotivating (on purpose because they want to make the other feel bad), it's downright vicious, it is constant, any movement I make if I am not doing what they want me to do then the screaming resumes for like another 15 mins. And I am not innocent, I scream back, but I mostly stay stop, stop talking, why are you being this vicious, just shut up and try to get some of the blame off my shoulders because if I listen to what they say I would have no other existence but to dwell on past mistakes obsessively and I was like that at one point but that hurt too much to function so I had to change my thinking. And I have fucked up so yeah I should get screamed at (dropping a course a semester because I was too anxious to actually do it) etc but the intensity of the screaming is insane. There is always screaming, there is always real mean shit being thrown around and this screaming can be heard outside everywhere, frankly it's embarrassing. An ongoing joke/actually serious discussion is that someone is going to call the cops on us at some point, in our previous place we did get a letter telling us to quite it down because they need to wake up in the morning (fights usually begin and escalate at 10pm to 4am). My brother comes home and like outside our window, a bit far away he's like "'you guys are fighting again? I can hear you from 10 ft outside the house," This one time we were having a fight and a classmate who lives below got worried and texted me to ask if everything is okay and I was sooooo embarrassed but I was like yeah, everything is fine. The thing is, I haven't heard such incessant and mean fighting from any other place near me, even when we were living in an apartment, not one apt would fight this hard and consistently every night and we were sure they could hear us but we didn't care during the fighting because that's how pissed we were. I just breakdown crying a lot during fights because of how mean and vicious it gets but I keep fighting still because I am STILL SO FUCKING PISSED, so, I just want to know, how is your family dynamic? Is it anything like mine? Different? What is it like? Do you guys have more healthy conversations? Sorry for the long ass question loooool
i'm also similar. My grandpa wanted to have a grandson just to pass on our last name but all he got was me and my sister. So when we were gone (ex;school) he would just argue with my parents and grandma whenever they were at home. Since my dad has anger issues it kept getting worse and worse. at some point he just didn't even want to move with us ......
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05 03,2021
All of my family do weed, smoke, and drink. My grandma got really ill bc she was a severe drinker and smoker, when she quit to become healthy ,people still smoked in the house she died. Everyone fights and some are physical that police would come multiple times. Most of my fam has been to jail multiple times. They usually let 14 years olds smoke we......
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05 03,2021
My family is quite similar, there's fights everyday though it usually doesn't end up in screaming there's still arguments, they are constant and it's really tiring. Almost all of them could be considered alcoholics, they all smoke and some also smoke weed (and take some other drugs but that's more rare) they all don't care what you do and even enco......
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05 03,2021
same my family will never just SHUT UP. it's 3am and i don't want to hear glass shattering! i don't care that your husband is a cheater it's not my problem! and it's all the time too there's never quiet. honestly the worst environment for a child to grow up in
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05 03,2021