Soooo, fucked up family dynamic, what is your's like?
Anyone else's household similar to mine? I've lived in maaany places but I've never heard quite like what comes out of my house. There is screaming almost every day. Like, scream fighting. And they are usually hurtful and weaponized and trying to put the other down, trying to blame someone else, recently (past, like 3-4 years) there has also been name calling that's been added to the mix, and that's always fun (it isn't though). It hurts, it's exhausting, it's demotivating (on purpose because they want to make the other feel bad), it's downright vicious, it is constant, any movement I make if I am not doing what they want me to do then the screaming resumes for like another 15 mins. And I am not innocent, I scream back, but I mostly stay stop, stop talking, why are you being this vicious, just shut up and try to get some of the blame off my shoulders because if I listen to what they say I would have no other existence but to dwell on past mistakes obsessively and I was like that at one point but that hurt too much to function so I had to change my thinking. And I have fucked up so yeah I should get screamed at (dropping a course a semester because I was too anxious to actually do it) etc but the intensity of the screaming is insane. There is always screaming, there is always real mean shit being thrown around and this screaming can be heard outside everywhere, frankly it's embarrassing. An ongoing joke/actually serious discussion is that someone is going to call the cops on us at some point, in our previous place we did get a letter telling us to quite it down because they need to wake up in the morning (fights usually begin and escalate at 10pm to 4am). My brother comes home and like outside our window, a bit far away he's like "'you guys are fighting again? I can hear you from 10 ft outside the house," This one time we were having a fight and a classmate who lives below got worried and texted me to ask if everything is okay and I was sooooo embarrassed but I was like yeah, everything is fine. The thing is, I haven't heard such incessant and mean fighting from any other place near me, even when we were living in an apartment, not one apt would fight this hard and consistently every night and we were sure they could hear us but we didn't care during the fighting because that's how pissed we were. I just breakdown crying a lot during fights because of how mean and vicious it gets but I keep fighting still because I am STILL SO FUCKING PISSED, so, I just want to know, how is your family dynamic? Is it anything like mine? Different? What is it like? Do you guys have more healthy conversations? Sorry for the long ass question loooool
dude, get the fuck outta that house as soon as possible
my parents argue a lot infront of me and my siblings but it never goes past name calling and screaming. theyll scream at the top of their lungs before one of them leaving and then them going back to normal after a few hours. or they’d scream and beat me and my siblings before acting like no......
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05 03,2021
That's a lot to unpack.... My family and I are pretty humble... my mom will only yell if I do something wrong or don't do the dishes..... she yells at my sister a lot more but not like what you're saying......
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05 03,2021
You're not alone for sure. Just being quarantined and at home 24/7 strained our family relationships further. During these recent months, my parents went from actually screaming their heads off to long term silent treatments. They've abandoned taking care of their own children so now i gotta take up full time parent role for my brothers. It fucking......
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05 03,2021
My family isn’t as bad as yours but still annoying
My mother likes to tell me I’m just holding grudges and that takes too much energy after my sister basically insults me but since she didn’t mean it that way I shouldn’t feel as upset as I do. Among other things I feel like part of a rich Asian family trope where the eldest is the smart ......
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05 03,2021
I remembered having a loud family when I was very young--like my dad would be drinking and partying with his coworkers until late at night and come home to pick a fight with my mom. One day, their fight got very serious and my mom took me and brother to her parents' home in another country (my mom and my dad are not from the same country) and filed......
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05 03,2021
you good man? not normal for me, thats for sure. theres huge arguments here and there but only about once every 2-3 months for me. what kind of stuff do you guys even fight about?
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05 03,2021
as I am typing this my mom is currently having a mental breakdown while my dad is calling her a failure and getting mad at her so I think my situation explains itself on how my family is on a day to day basis but hey at least they haven't thrown something at us today
(and the fights are usually physical so the current situation is actually quite n......
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05 03,2021
I'll give a really long answer because this is something I've discussed about in therapy a lot, and I hope maybe my experiences and how my viewpoints on my parents have grown/changed well help you.
My mom and dad don't feel anything for each other other than disdain. I mean, I'm sure some days they love each other, but most of the time they fight.......
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05 03,2021
I have one brother and one sister but they're older than me (like.... 20 years older than me) and I grow up without any of them
And they're amazing, they're everything I wanted to be, but today I see them and I understand how much I was wrong about them, my brother is trash. sorry my english
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05 03,2021
my dad yells at me like non stop and ofc i get all the shit because i'm the oldest. but what can i expect he's a virgo... but my sister is a lying conniving ass bitch bro. she gets my mother in trouble and my dad screams at her and when i speak up to him he get's mad at me. it constant arguing we us but there are times where we all get along. it's ......
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05 03,2021