If you're LGBTQ+, what is your take on falling for straight people?
When I think about it (being Bi-curious and never having confronted a person of any gender about my feelings for them, if any), it seems rare that a person, if they've been aware of and had time to fully realise their non-heterosexual nature would let themselves fall for and be hurt eventually by falling for a straight person. I think if it were me, I would naturally be on guard and vigilant to indications. So how does being stuck in attraction towards a straight person go? Is it generally a present, massive phenomenon? Viewpoints of both experienced and inexperienced LGBTQ+ are welcome! So are of those with heterosexual orientation. Do you know if you have consumed any media where the precise reality of this is presented?
I've had a crush on my best friend and to be honest it's hell. I'm a lesbian girl and she's "straight" falling for a straight person who won't even chance it is hell. Especially if you are really in love with that person. And it's not your fault that you fell for a straight person but it is annoying when you can't really change your feelings if you...... 2 reply
First thing's first: there are straight people and there are """straight""" people.
Crushing on straight friends is sadly inevitable, but it's almost always short lived. The awkwardness limits your feelings and any romance in your head fizzzles out uneventfully. If you can't keep your emotions in check, the friendship is doomed. It's not healthy fo...... 1 reply
In my country at least, straight girls have their own world and it's very rare to find common interests so falling for them is difficult, I'm more towards to find them pretty or have an admiration and that's it. But if I ever did I think that instead of "trying to change their sexuality" keeping distance and forgetting is the best, because it would...... 1 reply
Ah there are many layers to this question, so I'll try to answer it as best as I can!
1. As a gay person, I realized my attraction at a very young age.
2. I don't have much experience with romance being only 17 yo and gay, but I'll admit I've had crushes in straight people. It's never anything serious as I already accept that it would never happe...... 1 reply