Please help
Hey guys its gonna be a little long but please bear with me
I told my best friend that im bi and im really relieved that she is really supportive of me. However, a few minutes later, she started asking me whether she is straight and i told her that i didnt know. She kept asking me and then decided she was bi too. That was fine and i supported her.
One day my other friend ask us what our boy types are since she straight. I told her my type while my best friend was hesitating. We were all expecting her answer but she shook her head and whispered to me “how about girl type?” (My other friend didnt know shes bi) she kept doing that whenever we talk about boys and honestly its getting a little annoying. She said shes bi yet shes acting like she boys have cooties or something and for sure she wont like them she will only like girls.
After telling me shes bi she had also said that she wouldnt mind dating me. It feels like she isnt bi at all and that shes either a straight pretending or telling herself she likes girls or that she is lesbian.
What do you guys think?
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how old are you guys? i feel like almost all girls go through a phase where they question their sexuality when they're exposed to it in reality for the first time. generally speaking, this time frame usually takes place in middle school.
a similar situation happened to me back in middle school except the person is now nonbinary and proud, as well as bi. mind you they use to be one of the most feminine people i knew. so there's a chance your friend really is bi, however there's also a chance that she isn't, and is just going through her questioning phase.
but a tendency i have noticed among those age groups is that when people want to assure themselves of their sexuality, such as "oh i guess i must be bi" they start using the terminology "gay" more often than "bi" and eventually start behaving like you said, "boys have cooties". but i mean to be bi, does not mean that boys are suddenly foreign creatures. and just because you're bi, that doesnt mean that you will suddenly not mind dating your friend of the same sex or feel attracted to them, because types still exist.
you dont just like them BECAUSE they are a girl. there's more to it than that.
i would say just wait it out. only time will tell. but if you REALLY feel bothered by it maybe educate her a bit about how sexuality works and the different kinds that exist beyond being just "gay" "straight" and "bi" since so many others exist.
BUT i will say this. chances are she's not actually bi.
Yea thats how i feel too. Shes acting like she like them because they are girls. We are both 15
Idk, maybe something tramatic happened to her to not like boys anymore, its kinda sus. Or she is trying to figure her sexuality out. I wouldn't just say she was pretending tho, her behaviour kinda gives me a vibe something happened lmao, but idk.
Idk im pretty sure nothing happened lol
Yeah um it doesn't sound like she's really bi, maybe you should talk to her about it (づ￣ ³￣)づ
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