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i’ve been feelings really guilty lately... ever since bl got a ton of controversy through twitter and tiktok i’ve been feeling really uneasy reading bl. i still read it ofc but whenever a sex scene pops up there’s always something in the back of my mind telling me “you’re fetishizing gay men” and it makes me feel so so guilty!!

i’ve been reading bl/gl since 2019 and since then it’s been my serotonin. but there’s people saying that gl fetishizes lesbians and bl fetishizes gay men and now idek anymore

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CrazyPsychoBean 02 02,2021

When out in public, do see gay couples and get aroused? If not, then your not fetishizing gay men. BL, GL, Straight, or whatever you're into, it's all porn if it's got a sex scene. Does reading hetero erotica mean you're fetishizing straight couples? NO! Stop feeling guilty for enjoying BL. reply

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Cestelle 02 02,2021

Gee, maybe that's because it's an entire genre built upon decades of fetishizing and objectifying mlm people. Even if you don't personally partake in problematic behaviors and mindsets, you're still supporting a genre that exists and, more importantly, *profits* because of those things. And not a bunch of non-mlm people trying to decide what is an...... 1 reply

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:^( 02 02,2021

Reading yaoi and yuri is basically the equivalent of reading a erotica, except its gay/lesbian. While originally Yaoi was created on the fetishization of mlm, eroticas were created on the foundation of sexualizing women. Fetishing mlm is what makes you a fetishizer, reading a work you enjoy dosent. If you find something wrong with Yaoi but nothing ...... reply

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Emerald 02 02,2021

I will say, it is a problematic genre in that most of the countries that profit off it don't support gay marriage or rights. But I don't necessarily think we women or theys should be made guilty for liking it, if its our escape and we don't treat gay men irl any different. (however sadly some ruin it and do...) For me, I was so done with a lot of ...... reply

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KARA 02 02,2021

If you read BL/GL in your free time just because you want something about romance, then it doesn't necessarily mean you have a fetish for gays or lesbians. It actually just means that after work/school you like to read some stories online of that type. The problem is when you go around asking real gay guys "who's the top and who's the bottom" as if...... reply

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the rider 02 02,2021

i feel the same, but theres nothing to worry about as long as you're reading these genres only for the story, characters,entertainment and nothing else. reply

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Don Key 02 02,2021

Its Okay Too like yaoi,, there's difference between Enjoying the concept of yaoi and Fetishizing Gay men.. if U Fetishize real Gay men Like As if they act the same As Yaoi Or Treat them differently (whether it's Something pervert Or bad whatever) that is Very bad..ur not Fetishizing Gay While Reading yaoi.. you're fetishizing Gay people when u set ...... 2 reply

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