Am I doing wrong?

Lately, there have been quite a few...conflicts in mangago and tbh as a girl who reads bl (and many other genres) for years now, I never realised that me liking it was so controversial. Like, is reading bl a bad thing? I understand where ppl are coming from and I also feel that there should be a limit. Such as seperating fiction from reality, for example, reading romantisced rape is ok as long as when it happens in real life u don't try to justify it and understand that its wrong or reading bl and know that you shoudnt apply fiction to reality and make others uncomfortable. I am a firm believer of this rule and I hope others can follow this rule too.
Thx for reading this and I hope everyone can just stop insulting others on mangago and make this site healthy again. (づ￣ ³￣)づ