Fetishizing in yaoi

I hate it sm when ever someone tries to tell me I’m fetishizing gay men by reading bl because I feel like you have to be attracted to men in order to do that honestly when I read smut I rather it actually look good and I also like it when all parties involved look like there having a good time and I do read Yuri but there’s not a lot of it and straight porn is alway a bit rapy also I’m a flaming lesbian and want nothing to do with real men unless they have light sabors

.P.S. if you like bl or any kind of stories that romanticize rape and sexual assault you have some serious problems and I hope your on an fbi watch list