¿Who rape who?

Hello out there, i kinda wanna discuss this topic with your all... sorry this is gonna be a little long.

So when you are thinking about rape in yaoi, omegaverse etc. who do you see doing the raping?
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The top/alpha/dominant (the man) right.. because that’s always how it, the same way in the real world is alway the woman who is the rape victim and the one who gets reached how to protect them self from all the creepy guys out there... but what about all these guy who experience sexual assault? Well guys love sex so suck it up and be happy someone wants to fuck you. That’s always how it is.. the Same way when a bottom/omega go for it to get that D they should be happy. Right? And that’s not rape...or is it?
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Well many of you say that when one of the partners is drunk is rape. But what about that scene in BJ Alex where Jiwon is really drunk and DG take him home,,, well they have sex and we learn that MD warned DG that when he is drunk he seem to follow his “instinct” = sex. But anyways DG has sex with him... isn’t it here were DG should take responsibility and not have sex with a DRUNK person = rape him?? But for some reason it never mention.
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Another example is doing something sexual to a person who are sleeping. That is rape. But shame application chapter 51, our bottom is a little mad he didnt get to sleep with out top so what do he do? Well simple he just chose to sneak in and blowing him while he is a sleep = raping him. But i have seen exactly 0 people comment on that (cant say if someone actually did but i never saw it)
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And my last example wich is from Love is an illusion also known for the alpha/top being a rapist... (chapter 9) especially when Hye-sung is in heat, because then he has no idea what he is doing. Well enough idea to sneak in and going straight for that D to blow Dojin off, with no consent = sexual assault and rape. And no dont come say it was his heat that did it, heat is no excuse to sexual assualt someone the same Way it isnt a free pass to fuck someone in heat...
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So tell me again who rapes who? And dont say that being a top is the same as liking sex no matter who it is and how is it done, as long as it is sex. THAT is fetishzising...
Well comment what you think about this topic:)