the trouble around the term 'fujoshi'

when we talk about fujoshis, we refer to what is indicated in these posts:
http://www.mangago.me/thing/about/314410/
http://www.mangago.me/thing/about/302835/
http://www.mangago.me/thing/152/question/
http://www.mangago.me/thing/about/312317/

we have an issue with behavioural problems. people who obsess over bl or yaois to the point that it affects their perception of mlm couples in real life.

and when we argue against these problems using the term 'fujoshi', there are bitches who turn it into an argument that not all fujoshis are bad

we deviate from the main point and nothing gets across. i've noticed there are always those comments that are against generalising. in fact people go ahead and say 'im a proud fujoshi but dont do any of those things'

please no ;-; either be supportive of the core message or just shut up. saying that ur a 'nice fujoshi' doesnt fucking matter. if you are a 'nice fujoshi' then support whats worth being supported. nobody asked you. either deal with the hate that comes with calling urself a fujoshi or dont call urself that. its simple.

and why are yall clinging on to the word 'fujoshi' with your dear life? people keep saying that westerners have changed the meaning of it but why the hell are you so intent on reclaiming the term and changing its meaning? whats so amazing about calling yourself a fujoshi?

(yes this is a repost, my point wasnt clear earlier so yeah. soz)