A controversial opinion towards this site

Earlier, I saw someone post a question about controversial opinions. I was very interested in responding. However I wanted to do so on a separate page, because it concerns a problem that has been going on on this site for quite some time.

For the whole "yaoi/fujoshi debates" on this site, there isn't a side that wins it all. From what I have seen, many people on all sides just bicker and point fingers, but don't do anything productive. There are little to no proposed solutions and many of them aren't willing to come together to solve the problems.

I have seen numerous people getting bullied on these topics. When I mean bullied, I don't mean peacefully disagreeing with the other parties. What I mean is people shaming, insulting and sending death threats to the other parties. If you are going to state your opinion and do so in an aggressive way, then it just creates more tension instead of improving the situation.

I think that people should be more mindful of how they speak and to speak for themselves, since it is their opinion. I have seen many people state: "as a [fujoshi, gay, bi, or other group] in the sense that they represent all the group. However many people in said groups disagree with each other. So stating that you represent [insert group] is counterproductive and erasing other people's opinions.

Just to be super clear, I don't condone anyone who has done any wrongdoings (example: a person who says they ships guys (in real life) as a couple to satisfy their fantasies.) In addition this post is meant to call out all sides of the debate. I'm not saying there aren't any good people or that one side is completely in the wrong. I'm just wanted to point out that some people on all sides have received hateful comments and some the ones who said those hateful comments feel like they have the high ground and are immune to criticism. In my opinion, this is something that is not ok.

Just a reminder that all of the statements I have said on this post are my opinions and you have every right to disagree with them.

Also, I apologize if there are any grammar mistakes in my post.