I like a dick
He is a dick, well actually not, you know that feeling that he didn't did anything really bad just a little thing and you're like you pice of shit? Well that's me because I don't express my emotions and he is a dork that doesn't know how I'm actually are, I'm pretty chill and don't like big thing but he is stupid and doesn't catch that fact and ahhhhh he is a really nice person and I want to go somewhere with what he have but he is an idiot
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Take it from someone who has been married for 22 years... There is no such thing as "knowing what another person is thinking". You're guessing and assuming based on your own feelings, fears and insecurities. You absolutely HAVE TO talk to each other to know for sure what the other person is thinking. It will be tough at first if you're not good at expressing yourself, but if you speak honestly and openly to each other you will build a connection that nothing can break. I also know that what I'm saying is easier said than done, especially for someone who is bad at communication. So, here are some tips:
• When discussing a problem, focus on your feelings, not what the other person did. Don't use accusation words like, "you made me mad". Say, "I was hurt and angry when you...".
• Never go to sleep angry. If you can't settle a problem before you go to bed, forgive the other person for now and get some rest. Then, in the morning, you can approach the problem as if it is in the past. "Yesterday, I was hurt and angry because...", is easier to take than, "I'm still pissed at you for...". You will also rest better if you are not angry before sleep.
• Take the opportunity to vent frustrations to a friend or someone you trust. Sometimes, just saying out loud what we feel can ease tension and help us get a better view of what we are really feeling about a situation. If you don't have friends you trust enough for this, write down your feelings and then read it. Once you read it, destroy it. You'd be amazed at how well this works!
• Anger is always borne from fear or insecurity. If you are angry that your partner is ignoring you, the root of the problem is feeling insecure that they still love you. Once you feel secure that your partner loves you, your anger will dissipate. Cure the disease, not just the symptoms.
• Relationships are not built on "pay back", "points" or "getting even". Making your partner angry because they made you angry only creates a cycle of "getting even". Solve problems, don't perpetuate them. "You'll never get ahead of someone you're trying to get even with."
I sincerely wish you and your partner the very best. If you ever need to vent or need some free advice, I'd be happy to listen and help. My free advice is worth every penny you pay for it. LOL
i totally agree with your wisdom, but then there's this doubt at the back of my head telling me that what if the things said by my partner during the "talk" are just lies
No one likes to be lied to, it hurts and causes us to lose faith, not only in the person who lied, but in everyone around us. However, that is cutting your nose off to spite your face. There's no merit in hurting yourself to spite others. It may seem like you are protecting yourself, but you're really just alienating yourself, which is such a lonely and painful feeling. If you like someone enough to consider them a partner or potential partner, you should trust them until they give you a reason not to trust them anymore. Lies always have a way of revealing themselves through actions. I know you risk getting hurt when you trust someone, but isn't it just as painful to trust no one and remain alone and isolated? At least when you trust those you consider worthy to be your partner, the risk has the potential to bear a wonderful reward. Trusting no one, including your partner, removes risk and it also removes any reward. Don't blindly trust just anyone, but if a person is deserving enough to be your partner, they also are deserving of your trust. Trusting again after being hurt isn't easy, believe me, I know. It's worth doing though, especially when you find a partner you can trust completely. So, I wish you all the best, both in taking the risk and in finding the reward.
hmm, you saw through my words as i thought. i was gonna add "takes one to know one" but for some reason i knew that you'll somehow know without me pointing it out. thanks for the advice
I'm also in love with someone like that, I guess they're all around the world. I think we should talk with the guy and set things straight
I advice you tell him your thoughts. I'm more of an open book like if ur next to me and your annoying me I just look you in the eye and say gtfo, sure it's gotten me ugly looks and the title of a snob but my boyfriend says that's what he like about. Or maybe he's just crazy too and you shouldn't follow my advice...... By the way are you dating him or do u have a crush on him