I know the question about “asking if your brother is gay” (this question: http://www.mangago.me/thing/about/239756/ ) was well meaning but NEVER DO THIS TO A CLOSETED QUEER PERSON
All that will do is give the queer person a panic attack.
They will tell you in their own time. It’s their secret to share and coming out is f/cking terrifying.
I’ve had people ask me if I’m gay/trans and omg it kills me every time. (I’m pan and trans)