i think my brothers gay
Ok so im like 98% sure my oldest brothers gay and i want to like talk about it with him because he is not the kind of person to tell his family ANYTHING. Like once he legit signed up for a football team and didnt tell us anything untill one of his friends casually metioned there last game
. How do i bring this up with him without making it weird?
also if u wanna know WHY i think he is its because
1: this one is really weird but he always wears skirts? like he started wearing them in middle school and now nobody around us thinks it weird but yeah.
2: He's always super like touchy with this one guy friend and maybe theyre just close but uh like i dont know how to explain, if you saw it you would understand
3: Once he came home at like 2 am and when i ask where he was and he said that boy i mentioned aboves house and i could see like hickeys on his neck
idk maybe this is an awful place to put it but i live in a very straight white neighborhood so i dont have anyone to ask about this stuff also i really hope i wasnt offensive in anyway
In case anyones wondering what i did:
I went up to him and started saying comforting things like "you can trust me Ciel" and "I'll always support you" and that kinda stuff and he was confused what i meant but i just left it at that. Then later today he came up to me and he started asking me about that guy i metioned before and what i thought about ......
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26 11,2020
Here's a standard answer SHUT THE FUCK UP if he didn't bring it up it's because he doesn't want to. Don't go out him out like a dumbass if you do you're a piece of shit and probably don't care enough about how he feels (if he's indeed gay). He'll do it when he's ready and if he doesn't do it, live with it
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26 11,2020
Um ok no. Please don’t ask him. Trust me when I say that’s not a good idea. You don’t know how much I’ve freaked out when people have even joked about me liking girls. If I were you I would try and show him that you support the LGBTQ+ without making it seem suspicious. Like casually bring it up in a convo somehow.
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26 11,2020
If I were you I’d sit down with him in private and ask related questions but don’t out right ask him. See if you can try and make him open up but if he doesn’t just out right ask. But don’t be to hard.
WAIT WAIT WAIT: Also I’m 98% Sure you should wait till they’re ready to come out. I don’t want you telling us he had fear in his eyes......
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26 11,2020
I would honestly wait till he opens up to you. Recently, my older sister opened up her sexuality to me and I was happy that I'm able to gain her trust. So just wait, be open-minded/supportive, and chill about it when he does open up ^^
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26 11,2020
ehhhh id say just.. dont ask? as a pan and trans person, when my grandma asked if i was trans i had a fucking heart attack. i was so scared, and im still uncomfortable that I wasnt the one able to come out when i was comfortable. this also goes for my sexuality, she found out on her own and asked me about it. it made me really uncomfortable.
hes ......
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26 11,2020
don't ask or say anything, he may not even be gay and u're just projecting, it's ok it happens sometimes. if he is gay/bi/pan he'll tell you and/or your fam when he's ready.
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26 11,2020
Wearing a skirt doesn’t make you gay and he isn’t ready to tell you (if he is gay) so don’t ask. It will freak him out.
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26 11,2020
I’d say don’t bring it up until he’s comfortable enough to bring it up himself. I know it’s really easy to forget, but it situations like this, always remember u are not the center of this situation, he is. This situation affects him more than anyone. But maybe drop hints that ur supportive. I’m gender queer and bisexual and when I came o......
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26 11,2020
