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i think the main reason why people may put up with abusive/ toxic parents is because:
1) lack of financial independence
2) nowhere else to go
3) not all abuse is physical or easily spotted. sometimes it can be covert (like parents who are too involved in kids' lives) or simply a parent that neglects their kid by being unavailable/busy all the time
4) they rely on this parents
5) other intimates don't believe the kid or see the abuse as 'normal parenting'
6) the victim is in denial and wants to believe in the love they have for their parents, hoping that things are better than they actually are
7) it may be a difficult situation
and many other reasons too.
thats just my 2 cents i think its unfair to blame the victim.
Leaving is hard, much harder than one would think.
it is so hard to move out nowadays.
(and as for parent who are always busy it is hard to tell if they do it on purpose or not, some parents have to work a lot to feed family)
Abuse is used so often that it's normalized as "discipline". To the people who blame themselves it's not your fault your parents are just in a fucked up state give me a virtual hug.
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10 11,2020
From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
I’m lucky enough to be raised by loving parents, but I grew up with a friend with a emotionally abusive mom. There’s so many reasons a kid ‘puts up’ with abuse from their parents.
Another reason being fear of change. Your parents are your whole life, and you’re risking being taken away (IF the s......
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10 11,2020
some relationships are really mentally draining. like ones in which they treat you really well at first, and then plunge you into a hellish torrent- only to then treat you well again like nothing happened. it makes it so hard to tell whether they truly care for you or not.
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10 11,2020
As a victim of abuse, if someone ever comes to you, talking about their situation, never blame anything on them until you have a grasp of a situation. If you're being abused right now, please let someone know. Even if your parents say that you should be grateful that they still feed you and clothe you, that is the bare necessities, let someone know......
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10 11,2020
I thank my mom who despite being busy being the only parent that provides for the family (no my dad isn't dead he just won't get a job) yet interacts with me and doesn't neglect me and so I try and stop myself from asking anything more of my mom even if my assignment is due so I won't trouble her
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10 11,2020
