How did you "find yourself"?

Asking cause I don't know anyone irl who can answer this, but if you can: how did you move on from feeling absolutely lost without dreams, purpose, and identity?

Inspiration by chance? An unforgettable encounter with another person?

I genuinely don't understand how people just 'somehow' find a way out and begin living a LIFE for real and I'd like to know if anyone has an experience to give some insight - or can at least relate to/understand what I'm talking about.