I need some suggestions
I'm trying to turn down someone but I don't want to make them suffer too much.
We've been friends for a long time and they are a very fragile person since they already suffered quite a lot in the past and used to rely mostly on me.
Sometimes I get the feeling that they are almost obsessed with me and tbh it makes me feel a bit uneasy.
Techincally, I already turned them down more than once but I don't think they have fully accepted the fact that I don't like them.
They are also a bit manipulative and not very honest and I am quite naive and sometimes I fall for some tricks and it annoys me. Because of this I am also getting tired of this person but also feeling guilty.
I am afraid that if I am too harsh with them they will do something dumb (since they already are depressed enough)
But if I sugarcoat my words they will not really give up and move on.
I'm not very sure what to do ;-;
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13 09,2020
If you have already turned them down multiple times then I think you need to be harsher. No means no and when you get rejected you shouldn’t persist. If they can’t respect your answer then they don’t deserve your kindness! You aren’t responsible for their actions but if you think they will do something warn someone close to them or if they ......
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13 09,2020
Tell them that they are making you uncomfortable and if they don't stop you may reconsider your friendship because they are being disrespectful. Hopefully they'll get scared and stop. And yeah protect your ankles
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13 09,2020
Tell them a straight no. Even though it may hurt both them and you. If you don't it just makes it even harder later. Look at them dead in the eyes and tell them how you really feel. Use the right kind of tone and look.
P.S. Good luck! Remember that your happiness still counts.
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13 09,2020
Tbh I wasn't expecting someone to actually respond my long ass question, but I'm glad I asked here
I love y'all and thank you so much
(And this was my first question ever so don't mind me getting emotional lol)
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13 09,2020
they hella clingy, plus you already turned them down once, so i would just turn them down. no need to do it sweetly.
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13 09,2020
Like others have said, set some boundaries. Clearly say that you aren't interested in them romantically and will never be interested. Make sure to say that no matter what they do It won't change. You will only ever be friends and that's a fact. And for the love of God don't fall for their threats. Say that If they will attempt to threaten you then ......
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13 09,2020
Kay idk if this will work but you can think bout it. A way sugarcoat it is to be like, "Listen, I really care about you a lot and i don't want to become a new type of stress or trouble to you in the future. I would really like it if we can be close friends and care about each other through our future hardships. The reason why I'm saying this becau......
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13 09,2020
I think you should go along with this person, because if you have a strong bond it is sad that it breaks like this.
perhaps it also depends on the other person who must be able to face certain situations because now we are grow to understand what is right and what is not.
from how you talked about it, he seems that you also care for this person, ......
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13 09,2020
