The Fujoshi Community

This is the first time I've posted a question on this site so I don't know if this will get removed or not, but I don't think I'm breaking any rules here. I guess I'll know if this gets removed.

Why do some fujoshi think that just because a manga/manhwa is BL that means it's perfectly okay to depict abusive behavior as normal or sexy? Don't get me wrong, I don't think this is a majority of fujoshi's and I've seen other fujo's discuss this as well. This just bothers me though. In one manhwa, the uke rapes the seme in his sleep. Some people in the comments had the same reaction as me, uneasiness—but some people were okay with it. Some people even said we shouldn't be upset because it's a BL manhwa.

I know it seems I'm just whining about what other people like, but I don't think it's okay for literal rape to be normalized in BL. I mean, people who are questioning their identity/sexuality look to media like TV shows, movies, and books to help them. I don't think it's safe to put rape in BL because "that's just how bl is!"

What do the rest of you think? Is this just me complaining over nothing? Or, is this a real issue?