This may sound like a silly question coming from someone who is already 25, but it only started bothering me relatively recently. As a mostly-introverted gay girl in Serbia I have little experience with relationships so I hope some of you will get it better than I do.
So, like, I'm never jealous? I've had some straight crushes here and there and I've had my girlfriends talking about other people and even liking other people to my face and I've never been jealous cause of it. Sad sure, cause i wanted more of their time and attention and couldn't get it, but never jealous. And, I'm pretty sure intensity of liking them wasn't a problem, i get in fact pretty damn intense when I like someone, I've cried for days 'cause my messages weren't answered, I'd get so exited after over simple hugs i'd start full-on hyperventilating, and I've felt so happy to be in relationship with someone I like I'd go days with almost no sleep or food out of pure euphoria. I've been willing to do anything for those girls, and I did everything i could, and after they'd leave my life I'd always need like a year to recover from a depressive state.
And yet in both of my so-called serious relationships they said to me they felt like i didn't like them enough, or didn't love them. Granted, I've never said THE L WORD, because I take it very seriously and it'd sound silly after knowing each other for, like, 3 months... but they said it to me after few weeks and it did sound silly from them, I knew they only said it to paint a pretty picture in the moment, and it left me more lonely and sad than anything. Only girls who stayed in my life long enough for me to start calling my feelings LOVE were one-sided crushes, and ofc I also never said it to them.
Honestly, I think my lack of possessiveness is big part of the reason they thought I didn't really like them, they did try to make me feel and act jealous and one of them openly admitted she likes it. And, you know what, I get why people like it, I do too - but even so, I just don't feel it? I get envy, and I guess it's kinda similar, but I don't get possessive over people. Am I broken for it? will I never be able to make someone feel loved bc I'm this way? should I act as if I am even if I'm not?
So, like, I'm never jealous? I've had some straight crushes here and there and I've had my girlfriends talking about other people and even liking other people to my face and I've never been jealous cause of it. Sad sure, cause i wanted more of their time and attention and couldn't get it, but never jealous. And, I'm pretty sure intensity of liking them wasn't a problem, i get in fact pretty damn intense when I like someone, I've cried for days 'cause my messages weren't answered, I'd get so exited after over simple hugs i'd start full-on hyperventilating, and I've felt so happy to be in relationship with someone I like I'd go days with almost no sleep or food out of pure euphoria. I've been willing to do anything for those girls, and I did everything i could, and after they'd leave my life I'd always need like a year to recover from a depressive state.
And yet in both of my so-called serious relationships they said to me they felt like i didn't like them enough, or didn't love them. Granted, I've never said THE L WORD, because I take it very seriously and it'd sound silly after knowing each other for, like, 3 months... but they said it to me after few weeks and it did sound silly from them, I knew they only said it to paint a pretty picture in the moment, and it left me more lonely and sad than anything. Only girls who stayed in my life long enough for me to start calling my feelings LOVE were one-sided crushes, and ofc I also never said it to them.
Honestly, I think my lack of possessiveness is big part of the reason they thought I didn't really like them, they did try to make me feel and act jealous and one of them openly admitted she likes it. And, you know what, I get why people like it, I do too - but even so, I just don't feel it? I get envy, and I guess it's kinda similar, but I don't get possessive over people. Am I broken for it? will I never be able to make someone feel loved bc I'm this way? should I act as if I am even if I'm not?
Bro I just realized you could talk to all the people you follow on time-line together and post pics and kinda make like a group chat?
Nowadays I find a lot of characters giving off wlw/mlm vibes that I'M SURPRISED I didn't notice earlier. I'm really curious to know about yours
yeah ill do anything for u doja anything u want
So my guy best friend basically told me he is homophobic. I am a female bisexual who reads a shit ton of bl, and gl occasionally so I got no idea what to do.
Should I cut them off? He is my best friend but I don’t want to be friends with a homophobe
Should I cut them off? He is my best friend but I don’t want to be friends with a homophobe
My friends are questioning my sexuality and I don’t wanna come out.....there nice and there all in LGBT+ community but I just don’t want to come out... how do I get out of the situation?.. ╥﹏╥
Since I realised a while ago that I was a lesbian and didn't like guys, I cry every night because I don't think I will ever be happy being gay. I'm scared and well, this is the only place I can stay safe.
If u don't wanna answer, just recommend your sweetest and fluffiest GLs
If u don't wanna answer, just recommend your sweetest and fluffiest GLs
I realized that novel readers give spoilers to manga readers and manga readers give spoilers to anime watchers
So I was reading porn and listening to music
My mom came in (it's 12 and I'm supposed to be asleep at 9
Our conversation
Her) why are you up
Me) watching po... Pichu
Her) what
Me) lilipichu -switches tab- see
Her) oh
WHY WAS SHE UP???
Good song btw https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DXuNJ267Vss
..don't ask why
My mom came in (it's 12 and I'm supposed to be asleep at 9
Our conversation
Her) why are you up
Me) watching po... Pichu
Her) what
Me) lilipichu -switches tab- see
Her) oh
WHY WAS SHE UP???
Good song btw https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DXuNJ267Vss
..don't ask why
Haebom from CBAW. i think hes a bit childish. i cant pinpoint why i feel this way, i just do.
Perhaps its cus he literally looks the same since when he was 14 years old.
maybe its cus the fandom babies him alot. i think his character could be fleshed out more.
this is a genuine question, not an attack. i want your honest unbiased opinion on how mature he is, keeping in mind that he is 24 years old now.
Perhaps its cus he literally looks the same since when he was 14 years old.
maybe its cus the fandom babies him alot. i think his character could be fleshed out more.
this is a genuine question, not an attack. i want your honest unbiased opinion on how mature he is, keeping in mind that he is 24 years old now.
FOR THE FUCKING FOURTH TIME IN A ROW I HAD TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY HAD UNRESOLVED ROMANTIC FEELINGS FOR THEIR BEST FRIEND.
And I’m not talking “I was dating someone, but they were really close with their best friend and it made me jealous.”
I’M TALKING FOUR PEOPLE HAVE TOLD ME “I have feelings for / I love [insert their best friends name]” AND WE HAD TO BREAK UP.
LIKE DON’T PLAY WITH MY FEELINGS BY ASKING ME OUT IF YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON YOUR BEST FRIEND.
I DON’T CARE IF YOU STILL WANNA DATE ME BECAUSE YOU CAN’T ASK YOUR FRIEND OUT BECAUSE YOUR SCARED OF IT RUINING YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
EITHER MOVE ON OR LEAVE ME ALONE
Y^Y im done with this shit
And I’m not talking “I was dating someone, but they were really close with their best friend and it made me jealous.”
I’M TALKING FOUR PEOPLE HAVE TOLD ME “I have feelings for / I love [insert their best friends name]” AND WE HAD TO BREAK UP.
LIKE DON’T PLAY WITH MY FEELINGS BY ASKING ME OUT IF YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON YOUR BEST FRIEND.
I DON’T CARE IF YOU STILL WANNA DATE ME BECAUSE YOU CAN’T ASK YOUR FRIEND OUT BECAUSE YOUR SCARED OF IT RUINING YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
EITHER MOVE ON OR LEAVE ME ALONE
Y^Y im done with this shit
so eum we were in class i was talking with some friends about how a girl used me to test dating girls and that guy screamed that he loved me in the back of the class i went to tell him that i couldnt date him rn and guys from my class started laughing and saying " boi u didnt know shes bi and mostly attracted to girls ??? " " dude she was talking about her ex few sec ago XD " he turned red and run away the atmosphere in the class was weird and he didnt assist class for the rest of the day
he didnt come to class for a whole week i feel like its my fault and hes a nice guy so can yall give me some idea to make up my mistake or smt to tell him so hell come back pls
thx for reading it all <3 looking forward to ur answers ^^
he didnt come to class for a whole week i feel like its my fault and hes a nice guy so can yall give me some idea to make up my mistake or smt to tell him so hell come back pls
thx for reading it all <3 looking forward to ur answers ^^
Okay ngl I'm probably a bit young to be on this website but I've seen so many discussions about fujoshis and yaoi. So I just want to ask some questions.
1.) Is it okay to read stuff here under the yaoi genre?
2.) Is it okay to read yaoi at all?
3.) Does yaoi fetishize gay relationships?
4.) Is it okay for me to read it if I'm not using it to fetishize gay relationships?
5.) Is it okay to read yaoi if I know yaoi and real life are two separate things?
6.) Why is calling yourself a fujoshi so controversial?
7.) Due to the controversial subject should I stay away from identifying as a fujoshi?
I'm not trolling I'm just curious and want to make sure I'm not offending anyone or doing anything wrong. Thanks for answering!
1.) Is it okay to read stuff here under the yaoi genre?
2.) Is it okay to read yaoi at all?
3.) Does yaoi fetishize gay relationships?
4.) Is it okay for me to read it if I'm not using it to fetishize gay relationships?
5.) Is it okay to read yaoi if I know yaoi and real life are two separate things?
6.) Why is calling yourself a fujoshi so controversial?
7.) Due to the controversial subject should I stay away from identifying as a fujoshi?
I'm not trolling I'm just curious and want to make sure I'm not offending anyone or doing anything wrong. Thanks for answering!
So back in 2017 my elder brother(let's call him A) moved to another city to study & while parting ways with his best friend (let's call him S) , my brother's best friend told him "tell your future kids i love you more than your wife ever will" and bolted. My brother told me about it & I never stopped teasing him about it even tho I had the biggest crush on S myself. During lockdown A returned & spent a lot of time with S like the good old days , S continued with his teasing & flirting until A got overwhelmed & started questioning his sexuality. Finally S did a grand proposal (with crackers & shit) to ask A out & A went along with it cus according to him he 'saw the look in S's eyes & just couldn't say no & hoped to catch feelings on the way' . 2 days ago , A finally told the 3 golden words & today he came out to the world saying "Im 'S'sexual " lmao (it was cute tho) and I was like bruh I hate that you get to pound S's ass away I'm jealous~(I'm into pegging) & he was like "I'm the one being held tho??' and I was so shocked cus my brother has toxic masculinity and is 5'11 but super muscular & S is 6'1 but kinda lean ? Anyway they look super cute together. This question is posted here for y'all to comment F as my heart broke just a lil (I had it bad for S , he has the face of an angel)
Why is every manga expected to be yaoi like I cant read a manga without the tags saying bromance,non bl,bl vibes it's so annoying
Misogyny among straight men is common & they receive enough hate for it but gay men & trans men think they are entitled to do it? Y'all know right that after the LGBTQ+ community we're the ones who support you the most & the dudes y'all fawn over are homophobic in most cases? Saying stuff like "girls like her is the reason why I turned gay" / "I'm gay cus girls are annoying" is just straight up bullshit cus that's just denying the fact that people are born this way & can't 'turn' gay. And I 100% support trans men but could y'all please keep the insults & the long list of 'troubles' of being a girl to yourself cus we're living that life & very much proud of what we are.
PS: ofc I know 'not all gay/trans men' are like that, yeah .
Side note for people who learned the word fetish & won't shut up: I'm not one of those girls who worship gay men on a pedestal but those who do probably do it because they think they've finally found someone of the opposite sex who won't be friends with them just to get into their pants. They're not fetishizing you & have 0 interest in your sex life (mostly) .
PS: ofc I know 'not all gay/trans men' are like that, yeah .
Side note for people who learned the word fetish & won't shut up: I'm not one of those girls who worship gay men on a pedestal but those who do probably do it because they think they've finally found someone of the opposite sex who won't be friends with them just to get into their pants. They're not fetishizing you & have 0 interest in your sex life (mostly) .
So i only recently came to terms with being bi and this is my first time having a crush on a girl. And boy is it painful. I need to get over it, please if you have any suggestions send them my way:D I can’t cut her off completely since we’re in the same friend group and me avoiding her even slightly makes things weird. I’d be totally okay if she just didn’t like me back and ignored me, but her being super friendly makes it a thousand times more painful lol. I don’t want to make her uncomfortable so telling her is out of question.
im a bi girl ive dated women and men i did like them but when it came to physical relationship i couldnt bear it ... im more into emotional stuff and things got pretty akward in my relationships and girls thought i used them but same things with men i didnt like any physical contact i some times couldnt even bare kissing and stuff i just wanted to throw up some times so if someone can explain what is happening it would be really cool from them ...
so like-sex.
um...i am so disgusted by myself that everytime I try to do something sexual i look in the mirror later and feel like vomiting. is this normal? like I can't talk to my brother bout this. or my parents. i fucking hate to say this, but yall are my last resort.
um...i am so disgusted by myself that everytime I try to do something sexual i look in the mirror later and feel like vomiting. is this normal? like I can't talk to my brother bout this. or my parents. i fucking hate to say this, but yall are my last resort.