Think of having s/x/preforming s/xual acts like buying a car.
If you don’t clearly say yes to buying that car, the salesman can’t just force the car on you.
If you are a child you can’t buy a car no matter what.
If you are drunk or under any influence, you clearly aren’t in the right mind to be making such an important decision even if you make it seem like you really want the car.
If you agree to buy a car and then say “wait stop I don’t want the car” the salesman cannot and should not force it on you.
Yaoi isn’t representative of how consent works, that’s why I made my original post. If someone says stop they mean stop. If someone says something they mean it.
For example if you say “stop I don’t want the car”, the salesman can’t assume “well they secretly want the car and they just aren’t telling me”.
That applies to s/x to. Even if they are blushing or “leading you on”. If you don’t hear “yes I want to have s/x with you” from a sober individual, you don’t have consent.
This is why normalized r@pe in yaoi is so harmful. It gives young people f/cked up ideas about what consent means
If you don’t clearly say yes to buying that car, the salesman can’t just force the car on you.
If you are a child you can’t buy a car no matter what.
If you are drunk or under any influence, you clearly aren’t in the right mind to be making such an important decision even if you make it seem like you really want the car.
If you agree to buy a car and then say “wait stop I don’t want the car” the salesman cannot and should not force it on you.
Yaoi isn’t representative of how consent works, that’s why I made my original post. If someone says stop they mean stop. If someone says something they mean it.
For example if you say “stop I don’t want the car”, the salesman can’t assume “well they secretly want the car and they just aren’t telling me”.
That applies to s/x to. Even if they are blushing or “leading you on”. If you don’t hear “yes I want to have s/x with you” from a sober individual, you don’t have consent.
This is why normalized r@pe in yaoi is so harmful. It gives young people f/cked up ideas about what consent means
CONSENT
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07 12,2020
I strongly believe that it doesn't matter if it it's a stranger, a friend, boyfriend or husband ( or wife, girlfriend and others) if it's not consent it's called r@pe and it's not ok!!! It doesn't matter the circumstances, CONSENT IS EVERYTHING AND IF YOU DON'T HAVE IT YOU DON'T DO IT 1 reply
CONSENT
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07 12,2020
Ok yes I agree with everything, but I have a question. Ok so I’ve seen a lot of Yaoi where while doing *thrust thrust* uke says stop when he almost ab to, yk. But usually the seme doesn’t, well except this
But the question I’m asking is, if you are given consent, but your partner says stop... should you stop.
Bruh this makes me sound like I...... 4 reply
CONSENT
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07 12,2020
A lot of y’all are young and read yaoi with r@pe so PLEASE read this. (Even if you aren’t young).
If your partner doesn’t say no but also doesn’t say yes, you don’t have consent.
If you pressure someone in to a s/xual act, you don’t have consent.
If your partner is drunk or on dr/gs and agrees to sleep with you, you don’t have consent (because they are intoxicated and can’t think clearly).
If your partner is asleep (even if they are in a relationship with you) you don’t have consent.
Just because you’ve had s/x before, doesn’t means you have consent for s/x now. Even if you are in a relationship.
Taking out a c/ndom or l/be doesnt mean you have consent.
Taking off clothes doesn’t mean you have consent.
Them kissing you doesn’t mean you have consent.
If they tell you “no” even half way through a s/xual act (after saying yes before), you don’t have consent. Stop what you’re doing.
(I shouldn’t have to say this) if your partner is a child, they are too young to consent. Even if they say yes, you don’t have consent because of their age.
“Leading you on” doesn’t mean you have consent.
If they “need convincing” to have s/x, you don’t have consent.
If you don’t get a clear yes from someone who is sober and in their right mind, YOU DONT HAVE CONSENT
If your partner doesn’t say no but also doesn’t say yes, you don’t have consent.
If you pressure someone in to a s/xual act, you don’t have consent.
If your partner is drunk or on dr/gs and agrees to sleep with you, you don’t have consent (because they are intoxicated and can’t think clearly).
If your partner is asleep (even if they are in a relationship with you) you don’t have consent.
Just because you’ve had s/x before, doesn’t means you have consent for s/x now. Even if you are in a relationship.
Taking out a c/ndom or l/be doesnt mean you have consent.
Taking off clothes doesn’t mean you have consent.
Them kissing you doesn’t mean you have consent.
If they tell you “no” even half way through a s/xual act (after saying yes before), you don’t have consent. Stop what you’re doing.
(I shouldn’t have to say this) if your partner is a child, they are too young to consent. Even if they say yes, you don’t have consent because of their age.
“Leading you on” doesn’t mean you have consent.
If they “need convincing” to have s/x, you don’t have consent.
If you don’t get a clear yes from someone who is sober and in their right mind, YOU DONT HAVE CONSENT
