Toxic? Or just going through something?
[Question]
05 11,2020
TLDR: Are these just the low points with some friends? or am I in something toxic?
Hello again. This is another post passing by asking anyone for possible input into friendships. I need more perspectives to consider
I have this friend. Over the course of our friendship, conflicts naturally occur. I don't exactly think that they happen too often but honestly, I can't tell what's considered "normal" in terms of frequency either. But I consider conflicts to be an opportunity for growth
And the pattern usually goes like this: something wrong happened, we talk about it, we resolve it. Except the "we talk about it" phase often makes me frustrated or sad. Sometimes the conversation is constructive and wholesome. That's the dreaaaam
But most of the time, I'm getting a really aggressive approach from them. And by the time we resolve it, they touch on how they were aggressive or apologize for it. But I still get really scarred from how they came on in the conversation
I'm also not sure if that's just something that I need to work on letting go because they take accountability for what they say too.
I'm getting the idea that they're working on themselves so maybe it's just a process for them to be a bit aggressive but realize it later. And it'll probably get better over time. But I'm also worried that in future conflicts, they'll be aggressive again, even though it's a process that they're working on.
I don't know how to feel when our future conflict resolution becomes aggressive and deep, instead of constructive and deep. Is this just someone who's having a hard time going through how reactive they are to stuff? or am I in something toxic that I should consider leaving?
I've known them for a while, so my life with them is a habit to me. I really can't tell. Memes are always welcome ty
Hello again. This is another post passing by asking anyone for possible input into friendships. I need more perspectives to consider
I have this friend. Over the course of our friendship, conflicts naturally occur. I don't exactly think that they happen too often but honestly, I can't tell what's considered "normal" in terms of frequency either. But I consider conflicts to be an opportunity for growth
And the pattern usually goes like this: something wrong happened, we talk about it, we resolve it. Except the "we talk about it" phase often makes me frustrated or sad. Sometimes the conversation is constructive and wholesome. That's the dreaaaam
But most of the time, I'm getting a really aggressive approach from them. And by the time we resolve it, they touch on how they were aggressive or apologize for it. But I still get really scarred from how they came on in the conversation
I'm also not sure if that's just something that I need to work on letting go because they take accountability for what they say too.
I'm getting the idea that they're working on themselves so maybe it's just a process for them to be a bit aggressive but realize it later. And it'll probably get better over time. But I'm also worried that in future conflicts, they'll be aggressive again, even though it's a process that they're working on.
I don't know how to feel when our future conflict resolution becomes aggressive and deep, instead of constructive and deep. Is this just someone who's having a hard time going through how reactive they are to stuff? or am I in something toxic that I should consider leaving?
I've known them for a while, so my life with them is a habit to me. I really can't tell. Memes are always welcome ty
Ok
[Question]
05 11,2020
What time zone do mangago follow cause Ive been wondering... Do yall know?
