I Hate All Humans Aliens Rule

So basically, if you're a woman and you're dating someone you have to marry that person or you're a s**t. That's why a lot of girls hide the fact that they're dating someone and if someone sees her with a boy everyone will think that she's dating and will spread rumors and ask her when she's getting married.

Se* before marriage is forbidden. You have to offer your virginity to your husband, if not you're a s**t.
Even if you gave your virginity to your fingers you're still considered a s**t.

I hate it here

I'm talking about slurs, stereotypes and the like.
Can they be reclaimed, or should they be abandoned by the sidewalk.
Can words that cause people pain transform into empowerment?
For example, words like slut or bimbo. I see how some people are trying to reclaim it but i wonder if it works or not. and in addition to that, especially in the case of like historical ancient slurs...can they really change into positive words?