Let's Talk About Fujoshi's

I’ve never posted a question on here but I think this still falls under the guidelines considering I want to talk about things that happen in mangas, manhwas etc.

I want to talk to anyone who may be a self proclaimed fujoshi on here and see why u proclaim yourself as that as well as the connotations that surround fujoshis.

The next question I have is for anyone in general about how you guys feel about the normalization of rape, forced coercion, dubious consent, and other things of this nature in mangas, manhwas etc.

These types of things happen very often in stories and as a gay man who consumes these things in hopes of seeing a representation of myself in entertainment it can make me upset and also sad that this is what is in a good majority of stories that I see. That there are things that are just glossed over that are not okay. That people tend to excuse it and maybe see it as normal ? because of how often they see it. Letting it go because it’s fiction or that’s just BL.

Even as fictional things it hurts to see these things because people might view this as some type of reality that you imagine this to be what love between two men or any lgbt couple looks like, when that is definitely not the case.

I want to have conversations about this with people who also consume this type of media as well, please tell me what you think and why?

This is the first time I've posted a question on this site so I don't know if this will get removed or not, but I don't think I'm breaking any rules here. I guess I'll know if this gets removed.

Why do some fujoshi think that just because a manga/manhwa is BL that means it's perfectly okay to depict abusive behavior as normal or sexy? Don't get me wrong, I don't think this is a majority of fujoshi's and I've seen other fujo's discuss this as well. This just bothers me though. In one manhwa, the uke rapes the seme in his sleep. Some people in the comments had the same reaction as me, uneasiness—but some people were okay with it. Some people even said we shouldn't be upset because it's a BL manhwa.

I know it seems I'm just whining about what other people like, but I don't think it's okay for literal rape to be normalized in BL. I mean, people who are questioning their identity/sexuality look to media like TV shows, movies, and books to help them. I don't think it's safe to put rape in BL because "that's just how bl is!"

What do the rest of you think? Is this just me complaining over nothing? Or, is this a real issue?