zippycappypappy : Here's the truth, even if people don't want to admit it to themselves here.

Many people here view bottoming as an act of emasculation or feminization. Something done *to* the bottom. The bottom has his masculinity stripped from him when he gets fucked. But that's not an issue because for most of these kinds of readers, the bottom is functionally a reader-insert for their sexual fantasies and since they are women, they are not tied to the bottom's masculinity (see "Top Privilege" and why generally, seme based actors in queer media get more following than uke based actors).

If their preffered seme bottoms, then their sexual fantasy is tarnished. Their ideal macho dom man is "turned into a woman" - he is "feminized". And these readers CANNOT have that for their sexual fantasy. Because they can never accept queerness that transcends their heteronormative ideas of sex and relationships. To them, and for them, queerness is a medium of fulfilling their sexual fantasies by projecting heteronormative roles onto two men. That's all queerness is to them. There exists no equal relationship between two guys. Its between one guy (the "man" and object of fantasy), and the other guy (the "woman" and reader-insert). If you've watched her asian dramas, you will instantly see where every Yaoi/BL trope comes from and what moulds the demands the readers have for yaoi dynamics.

Anyways, that's my woke essay.