Well, that's yaoi for you. There's the possesive yet indifferent lover. There's the possessive and romantic lover. Then the lively uke and the tsundere type of uke.
But seriously tho, I dislike possessive yet indifferent/insensitive lovers. The least you can do is make sure your partner still get to achieve his dream even if you're obsessing over them.
Hitomi no Dokusenyoku