Mameiha's manga / #bara(30)

Not exactly my cup of tea. I don't like a lot of realism in my fiction stories, but I do like realism in the characters. This mangaka seems to know little or nothing about the world of "bears". Because a man is big and strong, he is not automatically heartless and cruel. Nor is it a correct assumption that manly men are homophobic twatwaffles who cower and tremble like rabbits or or snap like rabid badgers when approached by a gay man. Gay men are not all predators of hetero ass. That may be the theme of this manga, but it sends misinformation to young, hetero, female readers whose only knowledge of gay men comes from this kind of source. I don't care if you think a gay man's ass is self-lubricating, but don't assume that all gay men are predators of heteros. It reinforces lame excuses homophobics use to abuse gay men. (My brother was raped with a broom handle for "looking" at a homophobe. This is not behavior that should be reinforced.)

It's a great manga, but I get pissed at parents like this. You DO NOT put your life on hold for your child unless you want a clingy, spoiled "mama's boy" who will interfere in your life even after they become adults. You INCLUDE your child in your life. Be honest and open with them, don't hide trivial or important things. Even in a homosexual couple, children NEED to see two adults interacting in adult relationships in order to know how to handle them when they become adults. If you're cold to your partner or spouse in front of children, they will assume that that is the correct way to treat their partner or spouse in the future. Conversely, if you show your children that two adults can be warm, loving, supportive and caring, that is how they will treat their future partners. When an argument arises, don't hide it, but argue like adults. Even if there is a "blow up" of emotion, let them see. Then, let them see how you calm down and talk it through to arrive at a solution. This is how children, especially young children, learn... through example. No one "taught" me this. I learned by trial and error with three sons. Sons who love me and their dad immensely, come to us often for advice and treat their partners the same way they saw my husband and me treat each other... with love, warmth, kindness, respect and compassion.

This was much better than sensei's first work. It still has a lot of misguided notions in it, but at least it had more depth, sensitivity and no blatant, violent and vulgar homophobia.