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So this will probably be long so please bear with me. Actually, I think I'm living behind a mask and I no longer recognize myself. I mean ever since I can remember Ive always acted towards people the way I know that will please them. Its been so long that I think Im forgetting what I really am. Some of my friends even describe me as someone like this and that but I dont remember being what they describe me as. Its like they are talking about a whole different person. I know I should stop putting a mask and just be myself but at this point I kinda dont know who is "myself". That its actually taking a toll on my mental health .
hey! i suggest you take some time to yourself and just work on yourself. discover what you like, dislike and what you find neutral. you can always talk to a trusted friend and adult and they can help, but i think working on yourself is better and more efficient, thus making it more helpful. if you’re slowly losing yourself due to friends, please drop them. don’t try and act like someome who you’re not, thats how it can lead to the lost of identity. take some time to yourself and discover your passions and stuff. it’ll help you find yourself.
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Best thing I can recommend is to take some time off away from your friends and surround yourself with a new crowd if you can, without putting on a mask. Once you get comfortable as yourself with a new person it should become easier around others.
If this isn’t possible, still take some time away To completely disconnect and maybe try a new setting where you try different potential hobbies. The more different the atmosphere the better. If you can, take a week to go to a different country or city, or explore a new part of where you live.
Hope this is helpful.
Hi! I may not give the best advice, but I’ll try. For your situation, maybe start by just doing things randomly. To elaborate, if you have a random urge to start drawing, do it! Dancing, reading, video games, just try it out. You may be able to find out what you like by trying different things. In reference to people, try saying what’s on your mind. If you want to tell them a joke, or a story that happened to you at the grocery store, it wouldn’t hurt to try. I know you want to show other people the best of yourself, but no one is perfect, and your friends with you because they like you! If you are more concerned with the mental health aspect of things, maybe try talking to a specialist about this and see how things go. This is the best advice I’ve got, hope you do well and find what you’re looking for! (⌒▽⌒)
I'm not sure if I should be replying.
I'm not good at expressing myself since I was a kid. I mean I feel I did express my sadness or happiness bcz those were the only primary emotions we all feel as a kid. But as I grew up lots of other emotions started delving into me ..... jealousy,anger and some stuff like that. I never expressed them. Never. Bcz I thought my parents and ppl would hate me if I showed those. And so when I was old enough to understand things like family circumstances , compromising, sacrificing, swallowing your pride. I started saying and doing things that ppl would like. And I think that's where I went wrong. I do express emotions like anger , sadness now if I really need to. And I'm fine with it .I've been trying to be myself now. Personally
For me , personally ...being alone , doing things on my own like crying , laughing at stuff , studying,thinking , watching anime or sth .......etc just doing whatever comes to my mind when I'm alone ....has helped me figure myself a lot.
100000000%%%%% agree with this !!!!!! Disconnecting is so important when you’re feeling lost! Stay tfff off of social media as well !! That is part of disconnecting and helps so much with unnecessary social pressures and unwanted anxieties. Especially with social distancing and quarantining, now is probably one of the best times to try and find yourself. I definitley did with my social distancing. I really became sure of who I was and had a refreshed mindset to everything in life. Definitley take a breaaaak from the social life for a bit.
Girl all these replies are saying to spend time alone, disconnect, take a break. We’ve all been there, and we’ve all had to take a step back at some point of our lives. It’s totally normal to feel confused and lost in who you are and it’s so healthy and okay to take time for yourself. Self care honeyyyyy
Well... In a way I am the same too... I used to get depressed thinking about how I am erasing myself to suit others... Then one-day I started thinking that... Since this different persona is created by me... It is also, in a way part of myself.. When I started thinking like that.. I could accept myself... Well thinking like this maybe cowardly or a way of escapism... But it helped me a lot and I no longer feel guilty towards myself... Hope you to find a way to come in term with yourself.. (=・ω・=)
That panel where daddy Claude shown his vulnerability is really something