I like this series because you can really kinda see where each of them is coming from, even though obviously some will favor the perspective character.
Gunjoon's anxiety is making him assume and catastrophize. Jungseok thinks the only problem in their relationship is that he might be going to hard in bed.
Both of them have valid reasons for thinking these things. People don't go around clearly explaining their thoughts and asking direct questions. If they did, we'd have no story. I think the troubles in this relationship are completely within realistic miscommunication.
Also? I think Jungseok's answer as to why they are in a relationship is a completely fine answer. But I also see why it's the wrong answer for Gunjoon who is in the middle of catastrophizing. I have medicated anxiety. So like, lol, I have the superpower of understanding the anxiety brain and the correctly calibrated brain.
A non-anxiety brain could follow that up with "Well I want more than fun in a relationship, can we do that?", but the anxiety brain? The anxiety brain decides a LOT about what that answer means. Anxiety is a confirmation bias machine. Gunjoon assumes "Fun" to be just wild sex. "Fun" in a relationship could mean so much more. Fun dates, fun conversations, finding fun in small moments. But Gunjoon hears that and his anxiety goes "Ah, so he is really just a fuckboy like the rumors say."
The anxiety brain sees 14 million of futures and all of them are bad XD.
As someone with anxiety I totally agree with your pov.
Oh wait I forgot to conclude these thoughts.
A person who hasn't experienced anxiety might not understand how small things like saying "I like our relationship because it's fun" can cause problems. Jungseok feels the vibes are off, but doesn't have any idea of what's going on in Gunjoon's head. He might begin to figure it out in next chapter, maybe? But anyway, what I'm saying in Jungseok's defense is that how is he supposed to know how to soothe his BFs anxieties when he doesn't have a full understanding of what they ARE. He said the wrong thing, but he didn't make a mistake either. yknow?
I absolutely agree with the fact that neither of them seem to be in the "wrong" so to speak, aside from huge communication issues, I think even if Gunjoon didn't hear any nasty rumors about his boyfriend, they're breakup still would be completely fine cause they seem to be in different places in this relationship with different expectations, these outside factors just seemed to be a catalyst. And ultimately dating to have fun alone is not bad or worse than dating for deep emotional connexion it's just different, and Gunjoon's couple last words sums up the situation pretty well. Ultimately we all know "Fun" is gonna turn into something more for Jungseok, otherwise we wouldn't be reading this. All in all gotta say this is one of the least problematic break up's in the Yaoi trenches.
I don't want to spoil the latest raw chapter, but if I could express my feelings vaguely...
are you KIDDING ME
when will the cockblocking END
can i get the link of the raws pls
THATS WHAT IM SAYING!!!
giiiiirl why you letting him get away with that "poor people can buy flowers toooo"
a rose bouquet is minimum $40 some dollars. that is not the kinda flowers poor people buying...
do we think variable changed his hair to do identity theft, or is it just obsessive jealousy
not denying the obsessive jealousy is there but is he a weirdo, or a weirdo with a bigger scheme...
it's cos when ppl of royal lineage/super high nobility go to the academy, they wanna hide their identity so they like, do some appearance change. i assume this blond look is is original appearance
this reply made me re-read this whole thing because I wanted to see where they said this. and now im just gonna reread the rest for funsies :D
(ch 18 they talk about it if anyone else wanted to review the lore lol)
he kicked my precious car and yet I don't want to hit him.... wow, thats love /not even sarcasm
Who else reading ahead in the raws?
ennid omg stop you're being even more suspicious
Can’t believe season 3 ended and they still haven’t fucked
What?? Then what did happen in season 3???
It’s another fucking cliff hanger of the blondie attacking them bc he’s jealous