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i rmb reading this here years ago and then found out there’s a sequel on mrm. i saw it there but didn’t read- went back here and then saw the comments abt the stepdad dying bcs he got shot? LMAOOO now im curious

Like we suffered pain, sweat and tears then we got one happy chapter out of all the 58 chaps? No side stories about there happily ever after? No side stories about the girls? No side story about reuniting with the uncle? And maybe I'm asking for too much but no side stories where the uncle find love? WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS MANHUA!!!? WHY HAVE I SUFFERED UNTIL NOW!!!!? AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

WARNING: I got pregnante reading this...

their love is thicker than his eyebrows

OH MY--
MR. SEME, I KNOW HIS CUM MIGHT TASTE GOOD BUT LICKING IT FRESH FROM THE OUTER PART OF THE TOILET TANK IS A NO NO HOLY FUCK IM GONNA THROW UP.

two twinks in a hot tube

I am part of the LGBTQ+ community, I am a ciswoman Asexual, my gender & pronouns match the gender I am born with and feel inwardly.
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The main characters are a nonbinary couple. They both appear to be pansexual/panromantic although this is not stated in the manga.

The differences are one identifies as Agender & inwardly feels neither a man nor a woman. Prefering they/them pronouns. And is AFAB

The other identifies as Bigender or genderfluid, inwardly fluctuating between feeling as a man and woman. Perfering She/her & He/him pronouns. She also feels most comfortable with her AMAB body & has no plans to transition. Due to coming out as transgirl since the genderfluid speech was too complicated & since she likes dressing feminine, no one takes her seriously when it comes to her bigender identity.
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The definition of transgender is a person's whose ID & gender doesn't correspond with their birth sex. She's AMAB, which doesnt correspond to her ID & Gender. Regardless of gender dysmorphia she is trans. Even cisgender people feel body dysmorphia so that's not the "mandatory rule" to be a transgender person.
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Not every trans person has the same experience. Let's not be like the jealous annoying character in the book and oppress others with our own rulers to invalidate their Identity. Unless personally experienced, our rulers won't be accurate enough.

[PLEASE READ TILL THE END TO HAVE A MEANINGFUL DISCUSSION]

This didn't portray BDSM correctly at all! BDSM is built on consent. Remember this acronym dear children: FRIES
Freely Given
Reversible
Informed
Enthusiastic
Specific

1. Freely Given
This means that there was no coercion involved. No substances were forced on the individual such as alcohol to get them to a state where they would say something that they don't actually mean. In the manga, Akihito is drunk when he says that he is willing to have Shizuru do anything to him. Meaning that he is unable to give consent as he is not in his right mind. Shizuru had nothing to do with Akihito's alcohol intake prior to their meeting, but he could certainly take advantage of the situation and use it to his advantage. The fact that Akihito woke up with no initial memory of what happen only further proves that the "decision" he made was not a legitimate one and was not to be taken as actual consent.

2. Reversible
Most yaoi fail miserably at this. The seme says, "Even if you say 'no' later on I won't stop," or some iteration of that. This is not consent. You have the right to revoke your consent at anytime and for any reason. If you don't want to do it five minutes later, that is your right. If you get hungry, sleepy, feel sick, or whatever--it's your body and your right to say when you want to stop. This is especially important in a scene (BDSM lingo). You need a safe word to signal to the other that you want to stop. All parties need one. This is not only for the sub, but also for the dom/me and any other participants as well.

3. Informed
This manga does this terribly. You need to know what you are consenting to. You can NOT spring shit up randomly. If you're doing a scene with your dom/me and they start paddling you when you two never agreed upon this, then that is a break of consent. Most people write up a contract and make sure that everything is confirmed before engaging in the scene. This very important. It is not up to one party to decide what happens. That is going against individual autonomy and highly unethical. Shizuru telling Akihito that he was just going to have to do whatever he says in the playroom is absolutely fucking ridiculous. Akihito has no fucking clue what Shizuru could do. He could fucking electrocute him or do blood play with him or put him in a body bag. BDSM gets very fucking dark and gets very dangerous if you don't know what you're doing. You have the right to know what is happening to your body. How the hell can you give consent when you don't know what it is that you're consenting to.
I know my shit when it comes to BDSM. Akihito did not. He needed to be taught way before even trying anything. He obviously never dabbled in the lifestyle before (for many people it is a 24/7 thing). So he needed to be educated and not just thrown in. Informed consent requires all parties to be informed. Why the hell do I need to say this?!

4. Enthusiastic
This is really obvious. You need to be very sure that you want to do something. If you are taking forever to respond, then you don't need to do it. If you are on the fence, then you don't need to do it. Stop try to please the other party. You need to be selfish and think about yourself. This is your body. So you have every right to say no.
Akihito was very unsure in many situations because he felt torn between his feelings for Shizuru and his unfamiliarity and discomfort with Shizuru's lifestyle. "I can only love you like this." That's some bullshit right there. Yes, there are people who center BDSM as a very important and almost integral part of their life, but it is not impossible to love someone outside of your lifestyle. Sure, for some people BDSM is more of a hobby or somewhere in between. However, Shizuru gives off the 25/8 dom/master who needs to feel in control. He totally took advantage of Akihito's feelings for him in order to get him to comply with his demands.

5. Specific
This goes hand-in-hand with "Informed"
This is what I am consenting to. You need to be specific about what is being discussed. If you agreed upon a scene where there is breath play but instead are suspended and subjected to sensory deprivation then that is a violation of consent. You consented to breath play NOT sensory deprivation and suspension. "That's not what I ordered!" This manga really didn't go into specifics with their scenes which they didn't even call "scenes" because the manga posited Shizuru as the sole person able to make decisions about their play, which is goes against everything that consent is about.

In BDSM, I'm sure you've all heave of Safe Sane and Consensual (SSC). Now there has been a lot of talk over the years about how problematic this is and how it could be improved upon. The acronym RACK was created to mean "Risk Aware Consensual Kink". This essentially means that you are aware of the all of the potential risks involved in whatever type of play you are going to be engaging in and are giving your full consent (refer to FRIES). Need I remind you that another pillar of BDSM is after play. This can take numerous forms and means something different to each person who is in the BDSM community. The are general things that people can do but there are also very specific "rituals" that people will follow after they play and these can be very specific to the parties involved and their individual needs. Communication is key in this because needs can and will change so after care will look differently as a result.

This was not to bash this manga, but I cannot stand when harmful messages about BDSM are pushed in any media and more often than not the representation in the media is very misinformed which is why there are so many people praising this manga. They have absolutely no idea how inaccurate the manga was.
"But it would be boring if it was." No it wouldn't. Why do you think there are real people in BDSM?? The creator can create an interesting and accurate portrayal of BDSM. Plus you all could learn something. It's the creator who can make or break something. I've read stories about things I had no prior interest in and was sucked into it because the author wrote about it in such a way, while still being accurate to the real thing, that I was hooked and wanted to just keep learning more. Mangaka are fully capable of researching BDSM and making a well-researched and well-written story where the characters all have full agency and are enjoying themselves as a result. Akihito never got to voice what he wanted. He even had a little side thought at one point. "This seems unfair." I believe that was the approximate phrasing. Yes! It was unfair. What about his pleasure? What if Akihito wanted to try something? What if he wanted to discontinue something? Shizuru made it seem like it was his way or the highway. That is how he came across. He made it seem like a "no" to what he wanted was a "no" to their entire relationship. That was not right.
It was still entertaining and I did like it, but I don't feel right now bringing up all of those issues that were so pervasive. This manga was not long t all. If it was at least a few volumes long if not longer and was well fleshed out. Shit! I would be praising it on all of my platforms. They said five years passed. Shit, show us those five years please. Those years were material for more story goddamn it! More volumes = more money. Whatever. That's all I wanted to say.