
Their relationship is so messy, but both of them are messy too, and that attracts them to one another. Both have wounds that are bleeding onto one another, but I'm still glad they're trying to fix things. If it's a healthy fix however, that's the question. But sometimes hurt people, hurt people. And sometimes they bleed so much to the point of creating new wounds. But it's best to turn your big trauma's into smaller so it's easier to digest.
I'm not sure if this relationship can become stable enough. But we shall see.

Does anyone have recs where opposites try to respectfully get to know each other and their differences...

A good one is Yakuza wo Shibatte Ii desu ka. It's about a yakuza and a professional bdsm rope artist. The yakuza stays with him for protection and they get to know each other, its very good. Tonari no Metaller-san is also good, a guy faints in the snow and gets to know his metal-head neighbour. And The Affairs of the Other World Depend on the Corporate Slave has a total opposite romance, medieval fantasy Knight and salaryman. And On Doorstop, pickpocket and policeman. I could go on
My fucking god this was one of the best things I've ever read, and at first I thought it was a praise kink manga LOL but it is so much more meaningful than that... It isn't about praise kink, it's about connecting to each other genuinely and loving each other just as they are. It's wonderful, really.