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Truly she can't decide for sh!t.
I don't know how they all see her as mature when it seems that she mostly doesn't emote and barely makes choices. Indecisiveness and constant lethargic melancholy are not maturity. She may just be depressed.

"I want to take the opportunity to go to the ball with him! But just that." - proceeds to go on many dates, exchange letters and lead him on.
"I will marry and support my original husband because I want to meet my daughter again!" But keeps hesitating ALL THE FREAKING Time, leading the ML on, being absolutely ambiguous towards the og husband, mentally putting him down and comparing him to others and stewing on her life on the hands of her in-laws.

Her life wasn't bad. But she never stood up to herself. She never took a stance. She let her mother-in-law and sister-in-law talk cr@p to her face in her own house, in front of her daughter.

The mother-in-law was putting down her daughter in front of her and she said nothing. And look, she had her husband's support all the time! But she pretended there was no insult to smooth things over. Only to make herself more of a doormat.

The husband tried and, yeah. He was no male lead. But b!tch, please. She wants him as a sperm donor to have her daughter again. She barely gave a cr@p about him.

"Oh, he pretends to be more capable than he really is, and his business failed and he is overwhelmed by his responsibilities. I'll offer suport so things go better." Yeah. I saw no financial trouble on her long list of complaints, so at least he provided well for her. And didn't she JUST SAY that he had to take charge of the family young because his father died.

She didn't love him. Ok. He didn't love her either. But he respected and cared about her. Tried to protect her from his family. Was faithful and present and cared.

She had no interest in his interests or him at all, so really? The only trouble it seemed she had was with his mother and his sister and that he wasn't on par with the ML (beautiful, rich, a genius, a duke - and at the time a crush she barely if ever talked to). But she took no measures to keep the snakes at bay.

And the heels thing. Yeah. That made me think a lot about the FL and body shaming. The mental comments and constant bemoaning about it. And see here. The husband never SAID anything. There was no body shaming her for being too tall. There was no opposition to her wearing heels. He never ever made even a grimace.

It was all her and those around her. Her with the idea that she shouldn't wear heels and that being shorter than her made him less and them not match. She could wear them. But she didn't for something that as far as we know he never EVEN KNEW about. And that she compared to the ML. Again.

Let me tell you something. When you are with someone that thinks less of you and your capabilities and your body...well, it shows. In subtle and even in some obvious ways. Even when trying to hide. Specially when trying to hide. But her inner voice is at all times: he isn't abusive, treats me with respect, doesn't gamble, cares for our family BUT (he isn't even close to enough. And nothing he does is ever close to enough to make me happy. At most I am content). That's toxic, mate.

You have knowledge of the future. What you did with it? Gazed around like a dead fly and bemoaned that you cannot have all you want. But without trying to get what you want.

She had the opportunity to talk to another time wizard but didn't think to ask questions? She got thrust into one very unexpected situation with time and she didn't think her daughter the only time magician she knew was behind this (underestimating her daughter)?
And what is that about talking sh!t and putting down her og husband?

If you are going to make a choice, make it and stick to it. Better yet, go after information and learn about your circumstances so you can make it knowing all you can.

Not wait until it and everything else falls into your lap. There were only 2 times she did anything - when asking the ML to be your partner to the ball (acting like a teenager when she is over her fifties but loves and crushes and whatever) and when taking care of the maid (which seemed like common decency to someone that cared for her and was her friend and she considered a sister. But backward society aristocratic rules and all, I'll give that to her.) The rest? Absolutely passive.