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Exactly! Only love is not enough there are many thing that are needed for couple to work out. Even if communication is there but no comphrehesion it will go down the drain.

Those commenters should try this novel
" After Divorce I still Wore your Jacket" they will know how hard its for the couple to actually work out even if the love each other very much (〜￣△￣)〜

Thank you honestly i got scared when i saw people reply to me i thought people would start yelling at me lol (￣∇￣")

I mean, I agree that the uke's thought process wasn't the best and that does happen but I can also definitely see why people were still frustrated that he didn't even try, not even a little, to change his situation through simple communication with a bf of 8yrs but was able to say exactly what he wanted to a man who basically abused him most the time.

But even irl, when people don't try to help themselves, even when given advice or have feasible solutions readily available, other people irl tend to also not have much sympathy for them either.

For example, if someone laments on how hard it is for them to have money, but they don't try saving or switching jobs or asking for a raise even if they have no excuse not to (not talking about people who are forced to live paycheck-to-paycheck or are actually stuck in their job; I mean, people who have those options available but still just don't try but also whine about it). It's very hard to feel sympathy for those types of people. I mean, if they somehow get the kick in the a** they need to finally get a new job/save/etc. then good for them and it'll be great if they keep that change of attitude, but I'm still not gonna be able to be very sympathetic with how they were before their change.

So, for me, it's the same here. That he's able to find someone he can allow himself to be happy and honest with is great; he should pursue that. But that he was so unhappy before was really something that was on him. He was the one who wouldn't allow himself his own happiness in his relationship before by not even giving a modicum of effort to change it, even though he didn't have a reason to not try and change his situation in the first place, so it's very hard to feel sympathy for his past situation. And even more so with how easily he was able to move on.

Oh, but for the hate the uke's getting; I'm only guessing here, but I think it's bc in his process of obtaining his own happiness, he also hurt someone kind of needlessly and that tends to generate negative feelings. I mean, yes, they definitely shouldn't be together if the uke was so unhappy and so unwilling to work on the relationship, but how he handles it was definitely not going to be received well by the audience. And it shouldn't be tbf. Regardless of how life is, that's just not the way to treat people and we should encourage better.

It's also why I didn't think that their relationship was a good one. The ex really didn't know how to handle their relationship, especially in the beginning, and bc they were inexperienced and the uke never said anything, and neither side tried to actually talk to each other about their unease or uncertainty, theirs was already doomed. Their relationship just wasn't going to change without some actual communication.

The difference with the ex though, is that he stayed and was trying to be a good bf with what the uke gave him to work with. So, that the uke still never opened up but instead up and left without an explanation is going to irk readers. So, I think that's where most of the negative feelings are stemming from (just my opinion tho, as I don't actually know what most readers think beyond my interpretation of their comments).