"Of course you read BL, all girls love their yaoi" "Ofc you read shoujo, you're a girl" Basically any comments that attributes my likes/dislikes to my sex. I'm not afraid of spiders because I'm a girl, I'm afraid of spiders because they move freakishly fast compared to their body size which creeps me out. I don't like reading romance because I hav......
2020-06-28 00:18 marked
I don't know but I believe that the phrases below have the opposite effect that the one the person who posted wished to accomplish:
- The classic "If you hate it so much, stop reading it" .
Or even worse: "If you hate it so much, stop reading a let other enjoy it".
Has this ever, ever made anyone actually stop criticizing or doing whatever they were doing after someone barged in the topic session demanding that others shut up with their opinions?
Or, is it possible that this only adds motivation to them? After all, nobody likes a bossy poster who tells them their opinions are shit and they should stop talking.
Think about it. People hate-watching or hate-reading a show or story is common psychology, especially if they followed and invested emotionally on it. So it's not really that simple or even expected that people just drop it. And sometimes 'hating', mocking and bashing is the only think left to clean the system out of the frustration. So to 'order' people to drop the story for your sake is pointless. And even more useless is to tell them they need to do it because of your personal enjoyment of the story is affected.
What brings the other weird point. Nobody is preventing you from enjoy the story. If you let other people's opinion dictate how much you enjoy it, then it's really your problem. It's not their job to make you feel good about reading a story. If you give this kind of power to people, they are going to use it. Nobody likes to hear bad things about stuff we like but to say 'let others enjoy it' goes a step further and actually tells them they are the ones controlling if you enjoy or not something and this sounds weak and insecure.
Last but not least, besides the basic notion that everybody can have an opinion no matter how brutal it sounds to you, there is the stupidity of the request. Comments do not have a sequence or plot and can be easily skipped. However, you can't stop reading them and making yourself upset over it. Nobody is putting a gun over your head to read comments you don't like or 'spoil' your fun. So, do you get how hypocrite, stupid and ironic the phrase 'If you hate it so much, stop reading it' sounds? When you can't even do that with simple comments that you could easily ignore?
I don't mean to offend anyone but I wonder if they notice that this kind of demand has the opposite result because once you say this to people that are already mad at a story, only gives them more incentive to trash it. Now not only they are venting about something but they know that on top of it, they can get back at the bitch who told them to shut up.
You know it or not, you just applied a reverse psychology and got the opposite result from what you aimed with your 'shut up because I don't want to hear you saying things I don't want to read' ( even though nobody is forcing you to read their comments.)
- The classic "If you hate it so much, stop reading it" .
Or even worse: "If you hate it so much, stop reading a let other enjoy it".
Has this ever, ever made anyone actually stop criticizing or doing whatever they were doing after someone barged in the topic session demanding that others shut up with their opinions?
Or, is it possible that this only adds motivation to them? After all, nobody likes a bossy poster who tells them their opinions are shit and they should stop talking.
Think about it. People hate-watching or hate-reading a show or story is common psychology, especially if they followed and invested emotionally on it. So it's not really that simple or even expected that people just drop it. And sometimes 'hating', mocking and bashing is the only think left to clean the system out of the frustration. So to 'order' people to drop the story for your sake is pointless. And even more useless is to tell them they need to do it because of your personal enjoyment of the story is affected.
What brings the other weird point. Nobody is preventing you from enjoy the story. If you let other people's opinion dictate how much you enjoy it, then it's really your problem. It's not their job to make you feel good about reading a story. If you give this kind of power to people, they are going to use it. Nobody likes to hear bad things about stuff we like but to say 'let others enjoy it' goes a step further and actually tells them they are the ones controlling if you enjoy or not something and this sounds weak and insecure.
Last but not least, besides the basic notion that everybody can have an opinion no matter how brutal it sounds to you, there is the stupidity of the request. Comments do not have a sequence or plot and can be easily skipped. However, you can't stop reading them and making yourself upset over it. Nobody is putting a gun over your head to read comments you don't like or 'spoil' your fun. So, do you get how hypocrite, stupid and ironic the phrase 'If you hate it so much, stop reading it' sounds? When you can't even do that with simple comments that you could easily ignore?
I don't mean to offend anyone but I wonder if they notice that this kind of demand has the opposite result because once you say this to people that are already mad at a story, only gives them more incentive to trash it. Now not only they are venting about something but they know that on top of it, they can get back at the bitch who told them to shut up.
You know it or not, you just applied a reverse psychology and got the opposite result from what you aimed with your 'shut up because I don't want to hear you saying things I don't want to read' ( even though nobody is forcing you to read their comments.)
2018-07-24 15:06 marked
something you hate that people say to you