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WHAT IM SAYING GOD THEY LOOK SO HOT TOGETHER #ILOVEWOMEN

PLSSSSS PLSPLSPLS IM BEGGING

Not saying she had to hook up with him, she DEFINITELY could have told him she was no longer interested after explaining why and what happened and im sure it wouldve been less of a negative experience for the both of them and he couldve rebooked his ticket either way.

totally agree. She didn't think it through and jumped at the chance of hooking up with this much younger guy and strung him along. While she knows she has transmittable bacteria. If she were a guy, she'd be torn to shreds for her behaviour. As it is she expects far too much from her partners while being temperamental and vocally unkind nearly all the time.

The whole monologue just felt like she was explaining herself and justifying her reaction actually, (I do that sometimes and I feel like that's what happened), yeah she does seem like a douche here and I forgot about the bacteria part and is messed up , could have been ended things well cause they seem to have talked about quite a few things .

It was a dick move to ghost brody, but what made you think she was a creep? Like what?

Im not even gonna delve into how she basically fetishizes races of people bc thats a whole different can of worms but drooling and getting your rocks off to the idea of taking someone young person’s virginity like some creepy old man and then possibly giving them an infectious virus and wasting their time instead of being honest is more than enough of an explanation I believe.

Understandable lmao

True that, u explained it correctly what I was feeling icky about this all , like yeah fetishization of different races and damn it def felt like some creepy old man and wanting to take virginity thing , currently idk what to make of her , especially when so much of this focuses on her and her sexuality

Its just so upsetting because theres a way to explore your sexuality and experience things with new people without needing to be toxic and harmful. Nora likes to act like a wise person and give “lessons” and anecdotes from what she’s been through. She likes to act open to things and thinks that shes liberal about her ideas, but then when someone more open or or expressive about their identity and values comes her way and challenges her preconceived notions about a group of people or a specific thing, sometimes she learns something new or approaches it horribly. I really think it probably has to do with living and growing up in korea, and absorbing their societal views because unfortunately you are a product of your environment. Literally have sex with whoever the fuck you want, as long as you’re protected, safe and its consensual. But remember that your actions reflect who you are as a person at the end of the day. It’s really sort of just showed me what nora really thinks of people and that shes deeply unsure of what she wants out of her partners/ that she acts like she knows more than she really does in an attempt to save face and dodge responsibility for some of the things she does because much of the problems she faces could be solved with just communication or proper confrontation (which is hard, i get it) but if you dont tell someone what they’re doing how tf are they supposed to know anywyas im probably being very presumptuous and reading into it way too much but yea

Na u aren't, u are so on point with being wise and idk gives arrogance vibes whenever she presents herself as sexually open in a conservative society, which I get it is hard and not all seem that open but u are right on how she doesn't seem to listen learn more and be secure when she just doesn't know stuff, and yeah there is a major gap in communication too... I don't get why she likes Anders yet, felt like author didn't express it well or just hiding stuff maybe, idk whenever he comes up she romantasizes then demonizes, her mood goes to rollercoaster stuff and I laugh at how she covers up her jealousy when he wants to visit Japan rather to Korea as why does he want to visit the coloniser country ( I do get her jealousy though which is fair, he gets once a year holiday and doesn't want to give her and relationship a more chance) , I'll be honest I too come from a conservative country and I watch it just cause I want to be sexually free in life and be independent, she let's me be me, to be ok to imagine that life through her story but yeah I'll say her work isn't deep nor the writing is amazing , and I'm so at odds about her cause everything is from her pov and it's hard to judge the story and i do think the same with she doesn't have that much knowledge when it comes to sexuality , I have a big issue with her fetisizing so many guys throughout, it irks me a lot like yeah u are fucking a French dude, but chill on the over romanticized generalized comments, like ik it's just sexual... They might not converse much but I would like her to treat them as people not stereotypes, and fetishes. And u are on point with she doesn't know what she wants, I think she identified that issue with the last dude and I'm glad for her cause I feel like we have been cycling through fucking to wanting romantic partner trying out to abstinence then repeat and also I just want to listen to other guys lol