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Sorry but don’t do what Tom did. Confessing your feelings is fine and you can ask for a definitive answer or give a deadline if they ask for time. That’s all fine. Saying “okay. Take all the time you want but promise me… please come back with good news” is not okay. Don’t put pressure on other people for the sake of your own feelings. I’ve been on the receiving side and let me tell you that it pushes people away. I had a crush on the guy who confessed to me but he put so much pressure on me and emphasis on the fact that he wanted me to say yes that he totally overlooked my wants and needs. If it hadn’t been for how pushy and pressuring he was in that moment, I probably would have dated him and we’d probably be engaged to be married now (I always thought we’d get married if we ever dated since I’ve known him for almost a decade) so learn from his mistakes and don’t do that. Give them the space to make the decision on their own and respect it. No one owes you for your own feelings towards them.

He understood the assignment and passed with flying colours (all shades of green)

She literally has the power to bend people to her will via her words. She could easily have them admit in front of everyone why they are there and to what purpose and have them admit to trying to stage a coup. All this feels so pointless since her eyes would literally solve all of these minor issues…

You can totally love someone now and loathe who they used to be at the same time. That’s possible. The opposite can be true too. You can adore who someone once was and hold love for that past version while hating the current version of that person. You don’t have to like someone’s past in order to plan a future with them. As long as it’s something you can personally live with and ignore for the most part, I don’t see why it’s an issue. If you love him, you love him. Nothing complicated about it.

Yall need to talk to the author who wrote can’t think straight. Seriously. Before I read that, I was a firm hater of this whole fuck up and make up trope but that man GROVELLED and didn’t expect any love or appreciation for it. He did things to help the bottom with no expectations of anything back. Just did something nice and left. Showed consistency and affection without overstepping boundaries. He stepped up. This is from the worst man child possible who was homophobic, called the bottom a whore, told the bottom the only thing he’s good for is his ass, etc. and now he fights on behalf of the bottom, helped him with his family issues, supports him and is always there to be a resting spot for the bottom after a stressful day at work. He’s genuinely one of the most pleasant ML I’ve had the honour of seeing and I’m a veteran fujoshi. If that man can come back from that, this man can come back from this if he plays it right but AUTHORS YOU NEED TO WRITE YOUR CHARACTERS WITH SOME REMORSE AND SOME RESPECT FIRST!

I don’t particularly care if people upload other languages but please label them if they aren’t English. It helps everyone know what language you’re translating to and helps those of us who don’t know that language, avoid that one chapter.

As someone who grew up in an abusive household, I also had to learn the hard way what was and was not acceptable violence and what is and is not acceptable outputs of rage. Anger management helped me but what seriously helped me was learning that my rage stemmed from fear so instead of treating it as “ah I’m pissed tf off!”, I now treat it as “how can I make myself feel safer?”. For him, he feels like he’s back there with his mother being abused and to save his mother, he would kill and I feel him on that. I hate my own mothers guts for what she did to me but I would absolutely kill anyone who hurts my baby sister in a fit of rage because the abuse I went through would overlap with the pain she feels and it would just amplify it out of control. That’s why it’s so important to work on yourself and figure out what your emotions are telling you. Now, I can handle my sister crying (18 year age gap) and I can sort out my own emotions before flying off the handle to protect her. I can think logically in that split moment before I make a big mistake. I’m saying all of this to show people that he’s not a violent person and he’s not an abusive person either. He’s extremely traumatised and a victim of abuse and much like a wounded animal, he’s become aggressive out of fear. I hope he can get better with therapy or the boxing or whatever helps him feel more safe and more in control!

I actually really loved both stories! Usually I really love one and I’m meh on the other but wow! I like this author! If anyone has any suggestions similar to this, please share them!

It’s still inaccurate to safe and I’d say “humane” breath play but I am glad to see Courtney acknowledge how scary it is being a dom and being in the drivers seat and how easy it is to not only get caught up but end up enjoying it so much you get morbid curiosity out of it. I’m personally a switch but the few times I’ve done a wayyyyyyyyyyyy softer version of breath play on my ex (at his request since we both enjoy it on yourself and doing it to each other), I have experienced the curiosity she’s facing and I know my ex has as well because it does make you jolt back to reality and reflect and it messes you up for a while until you can accept that you will have intense emotions and intrusive thoughts while you play so close to life and death or so intimately with the human bodies upper limits. This is why it’s so important for both sub and dom or maso and sado to have individual safewords to back out at any time. On occasions, my ex has had to safeword while being a dom because he ended up having an intrusive thought and it scared him that he was “capable” of that kind of thought. I do hope they play with proper safety measures going forward but considering this is a newb sado-dom and a maso-sub with a death wish and a LOT of knowledge that he’s withholding from his dom, I don’t have high hopes. It’s a good enough read if you don’t think at all during the BDSM aspects since it’s only half accurate and very unsafe.

If you’re riding and it’s hard to keep your hands in front of you and move, put your hands behind you. It’s soooo much easier to move since it’s mostly your hips moving forward than your entire lower body moving up. It puts less strain on your hips and legs and definitely on your arms. You can also grind better in that position which feels awesome!