Yall need to talk to the author who wrote can’t think straight. Seriously. Before I read that, I was a firm hater of this whole fuck up and make up trope but that man GROVELLED and didn’t expect any love or appreciation for it. He did things to help the bottom with no expectations of anything back. Just did something nice and left. Showed consistency and affection without overstepping boundaries. He stepped up. This is from the worst man child possible who was homophobic, called the bottom a whore, told the bottom the only thing he’s good for is his ass, etc. and now he fights on behalf of the bottom, helped him with his family issues, supports him and is always there to be a resting spot for the bottom after a stressful day at work. He’s genuinely one of the most pleasant ML I’ve had the honour of seeing and I’m a veteran fujoshi. If that man can come back from that, this man can come back from this if he plays it right but AUTHORS YOU NEED TO WRITE YOUR CHARACTERS WITH SOME REMORSE AND SOME RESPECT FIRST!
You can totally love someone now and loathe who they used to be at the same time. That’s possible. The opposite can be true too. You can adore who someone once was and hold love for that past version while hating the current version of that person. You don’t have to like someone’s past in order to plan a future with them. As long as it’s something you can personally live with and ignore for the most part, I don’t see why it’s an issue. If you love him, you love him. Nothing complicated about it.