Hoon_Yi January 16, 2025 6:11 am

When I first got into BL, I would read practically every story I could get my hands on—quite literally every one. I didn’t care if the art was subpar or if the plot was lackluster. But lately, I find myself much less forgiving. A weak plot or poorly developed characters irritates me to no end. I’ve dropped several popular series, despite their stunning artwork, simply because the storylines were generic, and the characters lacked chemistry or depth.

Looking back, I also realise how indifferent I had become toward serious issues like SA, which is alarmingly common in BL, especially in the yaoi genre. At one point, I didn’t even flinch when such themes were included, no matter how casually or irresponsibly they were portrayed. It’s unsettling to admit, but I had become desensitized—much like the way excessive exposure to explicit content can numb one’s sensitivity to it. I didn’t notice it at the time cause i was so young but now that i am older, i realise how scary it is.

What I find most frustrating now is how these serious topics are often trivialized, reduced to mere plot devices, or brushed aside without proper resolution or reflection. I wish authors would approach issues like SA with the gravity and care they deserve instead of using them as convenient tools to create drama. I wish they would tackle such themes responsibly, fostering greater awareness and sensitivity among readers.

    Nomnomnom January 16, 2025 6:18 am

    Oh my god i don't think i can agree more?
    I was always baffled whenever people told me that "SA" adds plot to the story. I never understood how people could just so easily forgive them because apparently the character grovelled enough?

    What annoys me the most is that everything is so oversexualised nowadays. People are just porn addicts. I go on insta for book recs and its a bunch of shit books with shit ton of porn and tons of popularity.

    The most problematic is the romanticization of rape in the name of plot and how people brush it aside saying it's fiction.

    Also second paragraph was so me wtf . I literally used to think it was so normal for there to be non con stuff between couples when reading them

    jigu's juicy tits in my mouth January 16, 2025 6:41 am

    For a while I was also desensitized but I’ve been trying to read better so nowadays I can’t really stand it anymore when a SA is handled poorly or added in as a gimmick. Aside from authors handling these themes better, I just think readers themselves can do better. Because authors reproduce these same themes because readers eat it up, right? You wouldn’t continuously write the same thing if it wasn’t selling. Sometimes I wonder if some of these people that excuse these types of stories ever actually read a good story or is this all they ever know therefore they don’t know that a story can be good without these themes. or maybe it’s a rape kink atp and people are in denial pretending it adds to the plot but really it’s just them indulging in rape fantasies….idk.

    Me_for_ president January 16, 2025 6:45 am

    I couldn’t agree more with both of you, specially, since I’ve gotten older and I look back on how I used to defend those types of work and didn’t see the issue with stories romanticizing or glorifying rape and abuse. I was also too young to even really understand and shouldn’t have been reading that. It’s crazy to me that there is still many people who defend rapists and just overall stories that romanticize rape.

    Renee January 16, 2025 7:01 am

    This is so true, just a year or two ago I was completely unforgiving when SA was poorly handled and any problematic or controlling behavior in the main relationship would put me off as it should, but after binging a lot of these low quality slop stories that don't treat these topics responsibly I can see myself becoming more dismissve, for example when I see something like stalking in a story these days I don't even bat an eye, because so many more fucked up things are everywhere and treated as "ok" or straight up "romantic". I think I really need a break so I stop being so out of touch.

    lizzygrant January 16, 2025 7:13 am

    Ur so right ily

    Miyoko January 16, 2025 8:00 am

    back then and even now i cant read works where the mc ends with his assaulter, its too unsettling. but i do agree that most bl is just straight up porn, with more sex to add to the other wise non existant plot.

Hoon_Yi January 7, 2025 5:09 am

Can someone recommend stories similar to involuntary romance? Where MC is either mistaken as gay or the ML thinks MC is in love with them but its actually just a misunderstanding. Even better if ML is the one to fall first.

Could be any genre but hoping for more BL recommendations.

Hoon_Yi January 16, 2024 7:33 pm

Both the characters are in high school. Ml is a genius and has an almlst photographic memory. He is obsessed with Mc. Mc is studying to be a doctor and his family runs a big hospital. Mc is under extreme stress and pressure from his family and studies and tires to jump infront of a train. Ml saves him and tells him that he'll help mc study but that mc has to sleep with him. They have s*x often at ML's house.

I forgot the name. If anyone knows what manga i am talking about then please leave a link. Please

Hoon_Yi August 20, 2023 4:59 pm

I am looking for stories where the mc is selfish, manipulate and greedy but acts like a saint in front of people and their actions unintentionally make people think they're a nice or good natured person but in reality they're not. Kind of like the mc from Tearmoon Empire story. She goes back in time and only does acts to keep herself from dying but everyone thinks she's a very wise ruler lol. Please kindly suggest stories with similar plots. Can be of any genre.

Hoon_Yi August 20, 2023 9:31 am

The FL is a princess who was executed but went back in the past. She has a childish attitude and is arrogant which causes people to misunderstand her as a bad person even though she isn't inherently evil. She does a lot of things to not repeat the mistakes of her past. She has a close maid who was very kind to her when she was in prison. All her actions cause misunderstanding and she becomes known as a good princess even though she's just trying to escape death.

I remember the ML being a guy with black hair. He's very quiet and acts like a coward at first but FL helps him grow a backbone.

Hoon_Yi July 9, 2021 11:21 am

Looking for manga recommendations where the seme/ml's who are dicks/asshole get a taste of their own medicine and suffer. I am.tired of reading stories where the ml always gets forgiven no matter how shitty they are. I wanna see them suffer or in pain.

PS: any genre will do. Can be bl, gl, hetero, isekai etc.

Hoon_Yi June 7, 2021 4:15 pm

Guys i am looking for bl stories with obsessively, crazy yandere seme. I am not talking about those lame jealous or possessive type seme but seme that are downright psychopaths and obsessed and would go to extreme levels to get the uke. Really in the mood to read something crazy lol.


Oh and i don't mind gore or sexual assault if its done by the seme but i absolutely can't tolerate it when the seme lets someone else assault the uke. So please don't suggest stories like that.

Hoon_Yi April 18, 2021 10:57 pm

Hi i am looking gor a manhwa/hua where fl transmigrate into the body of a villaness that sold her soul to the devil in exchange for marrying the ml. Fl has red hair and has 6 months to live and makes a deal with the ml that she will give him all her property in exchange for marriage. Can someone please tell me the name, its at the tip of my tongue but i can't seem to remember since i've read so many villaness stories. Please help.

Hoon_Yi April 4, 2021 11:02 pm

FL gets transmigrated to another world as an empress who was very cruel and had lots of lovers. So far as i remember, one of the ML was her servant and the other her tutor. She even captured one of the ML as a hostage who was the prince of another kingdom. This ML was sleeping with the maid who is the heroine. Fl's little sister is also there as the heroine. It has a harem ending and there was a total of maybe 5 MLs. I can't seem to remember the name so can someone please provide a link or just tell me the name.

Hoon_Yi July 6, 2020 2:36 am

Guys can you please recommend me some mangas/manhuas/hwas with hardcore yandere protagonist. Mind you, i am not talking about the wishy washy type, i am talking about hardcore obsessed, psychopathic, i will kill everyone just to be with you type love interest. Don’t know why but i am kinda in a mood to read these type of stories lol. I usually read BL but i don’t mind if its a normal straight couple, as long as the love interest is a psycho.

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