Bro: "I'm sorry i was selfish"
Also Bro: Continues to be selfish by leaving her no option other than to be with him and putting her in danger through making the fact that she's his mate public knowledge.
Thanks pookie, such character development!
Mincheol was always like this, he just didn't show it (and with this, I don't mean he hid it, it's a non conscious part of him) because he had something to gain from the way his past relationship went like, he was having fun. The problem with him isn't even that he got 'bored', but the way he treated mc over it. Do you think abusive people are always horrible? That they never had good sides? How do you think abusive relationships survive despite the abuse? By being constantly abusive? Definitely not. People like him get to show their true selves when they get 'comfortable'. They have a good side, they have hopes and dreams but at their core they're rotten.
I've been a victim to a narcissist and it only hits you after you become emotionally invested and it gets really hard to leave. You keep on having doubts like 'What if it's my fault? What if i give up now, i lose something that has the chance to be fixed?'. But trust me, these thoughts are only self destructive. People like him are only capable of loving themselves and you'll always come second. They fall in love with the 'idea' of love, not you.They fight for the sake of this idea, not you. They enjoy being 'wanted' and 'needed' and if you become irreplaceable to them, it's not because you are irreplaceable as an individual but as an obedient object that gives them a sense of self importance. If he cries from losing their relationship, he'll cry for himself, for losing what he always had. There's a thinner line which distincts selfishness and genuine love than people think. Non abusive people enjoy being needed as well BUT it's interconnected with the person they share their love with, something which makes them willing to AT LEAST feel remorse and unwillingness to treat the person they were with all these years THIS way(the way Mincheol did), even if they want to break up. They do NOT blame everything on one side and feel a basic level of compassion due to the attachment towards a 'human being' and not someone they view as an object. Either way, hope this makes sense because i tried to explain something too abstract.
Was he traumatized by the difficulties of life like mc? Yes. But, let me repeat my favorite verse:
trauma is not an excuse for perpetuating harm and suffering, nor a free forgiveness card for causing emotional or physical pain to others. Trauma may help explain why someone is primed to think, feel, behave, or react in certain manners or in certain contexts. But having experienced trauma is by no means a justification for harmful behavior and no amount of trauma exempts a traumatized person from being held accountable if and when they hurt others.
This is not his 'trauma' only, this is also 'him' because he's a selfish individual. He should be held accountable and pay the consequences.
Guys, this pos is gonna kill her best friend from the orphanage and guess what? Fl will go berserk. She is NOT your usual people-pleaser, back then in the orphanage, she found out that her friend was also getting abused by the principal, so she burned the pedophile alive. Yes, you read that right, she was the one who set the fire. She's the type of person that accepts any type of abuse directed at her, until you decide to hurt the people she values lol Dude is going to regret doing that, because she's smarter and can be more evil than him. You go girl!
A person with antisocial personality disorder 'attracted' to a vulnerable people-pleaser they can control. A tale as old as time. But i have a feeling that fl is more that she shows she is and this pos is going to regret his existence lmao
If only he didn't catastrophize and assessed the situation calmly and objectively, perhaps we would have avoided this situation
He's gashlighting her like crazy. Every single one of his arguments can easily be discounted but Chloe doesn't have the willingness to truly fight back or she's intentionally written to be naive (which doesn't fit with her character that is supposed to be sharp and intelligent). The dialogue (what dialogue lol) between them was frustrating because the willingness of one of the characters to engage and defend their views was severely lacking and truthfully, insulting to the female gender. I wasn't under the impression that she wasn't going to end up with the bastard but i expected a bit more fight from sis. That's all.
I really like it! And fl seems to be very down on earth, despite being born a noble. She was never spoiled, if anything she was abused so life as a maid with true friends is much better for her.
Fl's personality is frustratingly dumb and the plot doesn't have a smooth flow. Not that excited to continue.
Great. He doesn't feel bad about anything he did and she just immediately gave in to him, despite him deceiving her countless times solely for his own gain. She's nothing but a thing he can own at this point. I'm really fucking annoyed, especially at the last lines that undermined the seriousness of his actions and made him appear playful. Dude is the type of guy that irl would resort to 'negging'.
While he does seem obsessed, his behavior states that he very much wants to get revenge. He never received love, from anyone. He was abused in the worst way possible by her father and the person he harbored feelings for. He's twisted and is probably going to make her life hell while at the same time fulfilling his obsession. She's really not going to like his 'love'. As for fl, I expected her to have matured after her bad experience and the days she stayed at the Covent but she seem to be as immature and egocentric as ever. Is she traumatized? Yes. But this doesn't suddenly make her a good person. I can't even blame ml for wanting revenge. This is going to be a painful read.
He's going to rape Inseob and he's going to make him bleed. Once he realizes what he did and sees how Inseob fears him he'll get something resembling a panic attack. He'll try to change for the sake of Inseob, he'll go to therapy and all BUT he'll still be terrifyingly obsessive. Just way less abusive. He'll no longer demand sex e.t.c. He'll genuinely feel like shit. Inseob is probably the only person he has ever felt sympathy for. He may not completely understand him but he can see he is hurting him.
She should report him for sexual harassment. His filthy hands shouldn't have touched her. Dear God, the fact that so many men are actually like this lol I hope he chokes in his own blood.
I freaking LOVE this story. Mc is adorable with a super likable personality and ml is the type of yandere i adore: a green flag to mc but a red flag to everyone else lmao
"You didn't even try to understand me!" So she should have stayed back, getting every single day mistreated in order to understand you?
Is it also her fault you deceived and took advantage of her and created a fake version of yourself for the sake of your revenge?Her fault she didn't see through that as a naive, sheltered person?
Not to mention that he NEVER tried to understand her either, even though in his case he was welcome to, unlike her. He only embraced a distorted version of her that he made up in his head, but i guess for Heiner Annette is as 'heinous' as he sees her, while he is only 'misunderstood'. He deserves understanding while she doesn't.
And i guess he also knows her feelings better than her own self, right?
Trauma is not an excuse for perpetuating harm and suffering, nor a free forgiveness card for causing emotional or physical pain to others. Trauma may help explain why someone is primed to think, feel, behave, or react in certain manners or in certain contexts. But having experienced trauma is by no means a justification for harmful behavior and no amount of trauma exempts a traumatized person from being held accountable if and when they hurt others.
And this is for the people insisting they're both at fault. No, they're not. Yes, Heiner is traumatized and DIDN'T deserve what happened to him and yes, this experience changed him forever and understandably so. But he is STILL an abuser. And no, Annette is not at fault for being born ignorant in a society where women of the higher class were bred to be sold off for marriage. Ignorance and inability to be given an opportunity earlier in order to correct it is NOT her fault. She did not give the orders and she certainly did not wish for anyone to get hurt. There's ZERO indication she knew what was even going on. She was sheltered and controlled her whole life.
That's why i find the people, few as they are who find excuses for Heiner to justify him yet criticize the hard work of a person that was bit down by guilt and the hatred of a LOT of people but despite that they rised up and tried to move on, annoying. Heiner's feelings aren't her responsibility.
"No, I'm not okay with that. I'm threatening you mister, so you better lay down and get used. If I don't like something, you'll stop and adapt to my needs, not me to yours. YOU sold your body to me" This is what she should have said.