Hello! I studied this term in college, because I asked myself some of that questions too (even if I'm female). To sum it up, gay romace between two men is interesting for many women because of the gender itself. First, as a man, women would not have to fear pregnancy - it means having fun with sex without that kind of risk (diseases excluded here).......
If you feel like you're not going to like him, say no. You're feeling guilty because he offers something really precious and rare which are his romantic feelings and you are turning him down. Basically, he gives you love and you're going to hurt him. It's quite an uncomfortable situation but you're not guilty of not being able to reciprocate his ......
MATURING IS REALISING THAT