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I recently opened the Bed Gloop server
Movies. Series. Manga. Unhinged opinions. Weekly discoveries.
This is your semi-functional living room where we:
• Catch new episodes together(and argue about them immediately)
• Voice chat like it’s a group therapy session
• Read manga releases and spiral together
• Shitpost with no regard for our digital footprint
Each week we pick something fresh (or cursed) and dive in.
You’re not required to be normal, just somewhat present
Consume media. Talk trash. Repeat.
I recently opened the Bed Gloop server
Movies. Series. Manga. Unhinged opinions. Weekly discoveries.
This is your semi-functional living room where we:
• Catch new episodes together(and argue about them immediately)
• Voice chat like it’s a group therapy session
• Read manga releases and spiral together
• Shitpost with no regard for our digital footprint
Each week we pick something fresh (or cursed) and dive in.
You’re not required to be normal, just somewhat present
Consume media. Talk trash. Repeat.
I recently opened the Bed Gloop
Movies. Series. Manga. Unhinged opinions. Weekly discoveries.
This is your semi-functional living room where we:
• Catch new episodes together(and argue about them immediately)
• Voice chat like it’s a group therapy session
• Read manga releases and spiral together
• Shitpost with no regard for our digital footprint
Each week we pick something fresh (or cursed) and dive in.
You’re not required to be normal, just somewhat present
Consume media. Talk trash. Repeat.
The only way to genuinely get through jinx is to act as a criminal therapist and go through chapters like "let's see what are his insecurities, aggression triggers, personality disorder markers"
And from there think of a fracture of weakness to attack and peel at until he understands that he isn't well connected with his inner self and that his control over triggers borders on being hallucinations of control so deep he may have permanent psychosis
Haha you don't need to be a forensic psychologist to act in this way. This really is just being willing to understand someone entirely without giving up on them. We are always so quick to judge, never to digest, always so quick to think about ourselves only. But the moment you are entangled with someone, every interaction with them is something you both create together, regardless of whether we like it or not.
Even as third party observers, we are so quick to impose our own selfish perspectives, instead of seeing things for what they are and considering what we could do for each of the main characters separately.
This story only spans the surface of abusive dynamics. Ultimately it's just two people deeply struggling with themselves. It's just that one externalises their aggression and the other internalises it.
I really like what you said, and ultimately it's saying the same thing but in gentler less judge-y terms
But that's what I disagree with unfortunately
We do in fact impose our selfish perspective, that is true as a general concept, but when talking about abuse and all, we're barely equipped to do anything much more than that
So in this context of inexistent capacities (we, as the average person that could be a third party or average victim, literally can do nothing for the abuser to help them) I think it should be brought to the hands of professional workers on the matter
And hell, sometimes even them struggle to get results
I am not denying that we tend to dehumanize those who externalize their aggression. But in my opinion that tendency is what will protect the average victim and observer. And that behavior as you said is created by the interaction of both parties
There is only so much compassion that can go around and I'm not about to agree to waste some of it on something I'm at least 90% sure will need an abysimal amount of it to work as we'd ideally or even just sub ideally imagine it to work
I understand you, really, and I also see where you're coming from and appreciate your insight. It's likely because I am majoring in clinical forensic psychology that I stand by these beliefs. Not because I believe in the greater good necessarily, but for my own selfish reasons, one of them being understanding the human mind in its entirety. Unlocking, analyzing extreme behaviours is important for that.
It's normal to bear only so much emotional capacity for a dangerous adult. Unlike someone who internalises their exasperation, those who do the opposite actually pose a threat to the rest of us, and it's a natural instinct to seek protection and cast them out. Personally I dislike the idea that our first approach to such people is to respond to their aggression with even greater aggression, even if it's what has driven the world so far, and still does. Sometimes it's definitely needed, but it being the default reaction.... It's what I disagree with in this case.
And you aren't obliged to show empathy and patience to someone who is erratically dangerous. The world as we know it conditions us to care for ourselves primarily, and it doesn't give us the privilege to act otherwise. But I do think everyone can be rehabilitated, in some way or another, and deserve even a speck of patience—doesn't have to be out of goodwill, no matter how much of an abomination they act like, simply for the purpose of broadening our horizons and learning to shield ourselves better!