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I think your bf is too soft
How old is he
And why did you let him go
You should've have stopped him
Like if you go to that wedding I'll break up with you lol

Ultimatums are childish and toxic. The best thing to do is talk about WHY they don't want him to go, WHY he wants to go and WHY he thinks they're more important than their relationship

Wdym by "why they don't want him to go"
If your bf is going to the wedding of his ex gf and his cheater freind than obviously it's normal to stop them
And if the bf thinks that his cheater ex and freind is more important than his current lover than he needs some scolding from his mom

Um, yes. That's the why, babes.

Hes not worth your time.
I cannot think of any good excuse here based off your information but i suggest you to talk to him and ask him about it TOMORROW. (today is definitely not the right time your emotions might be all over the place)

To be honest, that would be my last straw, i dont tolerate crap like this

I was about to say that if it's his friend's wedding it's a (hopefully) once in a lifetime event and he should participate to support him, and that you should just go as a +1 (if +1s were allowed) but THEN I READ WHOSE WEDDING IT IS WTF

Talk to him ? If not then dump him because if y’all don’t talk that relationship is going nowhere.

He's dumb for attenting such a wedding, and he's not into you for leaving you alone for 2 weeks and still ignoring your invitation, do yourself a favor and dump him before it does.

Agree

Thanks everyone that replied

To clarify, the friend is not married to the ex gf. It was someone else but still why you wanna be there! I talked to him about this and he leave me on read for the half part and another part is just on delivered. I did myself a favor and went on date with myself to the beach, eat nice food and just spending the day feeling good by myself.

The day almost over (atleast GMT+8) and he still didn’t address whatever I have sent him about how I feel him going/choosing his friend over me. He just send me a good morning text and told me he arrived at the friend wedding. I didnt open it just read it through notification.

He’s 29, and currently taking his degree. That two weeks was his final ( i totally understand thats why I left him be) cause Im 31 and taking master degree myself (i just completed my thesis and I never ignored him during those time)

He cannot process big emotions and just shove it away every time I have meltdown like this. I already gave him ultimatum if he didn’t wife me up this year we are over.

Honestly this is not all and I know damn well I am too soft and settling down cause I saw potential in him. Mentally I am checking out but thats the tricky part about feelings. It doesnt follow what you need

And thanks everyone for reading my bs

Is he doing his bachelors degree? At this age?
If he thinks his friend who betrayed him is more important than you then I don't think you should take him seriously
Just dump him

Yes. He dropped out his first degree because he was heartbroken by the cheating gf and it was covid. He cannot keep up with it. So he’s taking his degree now by taking night classes.

Oo i think he was too late to pursue bachelors degree he should have done some professional degree like Chartered accountant or company secretary
I don't know about your country but 29 year old man with only bachelors degree can't get a decent job in my country
So if he can't get a job and he's like this
Than If I was in your place then i wouldn't have continued this relationship

speaking of accountants, he have diploma in accounting but he didn’t like it so he didn’t want to work in accounting. He still have interest in finance but not accounting. He just started his bachelor degree last year, possibly he will graduate around 2027? When he’s 31?

Thanks for talking with me Arya. I didn’t talk about this to anyone irl yet just trying to digest things. I mean looking from the lense of someone inlove, the hope is there but tbh I am tired already. I am actually working with good salary, i have my own car and i even finance him for the past 4 months. I am so tired but what if after we broke up he changed and the next girl will get everything that I ever wanted? I just want to cry now idk what to do this is so painful lol

You gave him money for past 4 months
Σ(っ°Д °;)っ what else does he need. He should listen to your every word
I hate this kind of people who waste their time in some course then they're like I don't want to work in this field i say "why the fuck did you do this course if you were not going to enter this field
My friend who did bachelors of art did tally course and started working as accountant he wasted 3 years for that degree then started working with his tally knowledge
He wasted his parents money, his time, his degree
So what I want to say that your bf should use his diploma certificate
About your bf
i hope he's some good kind hearted guy who can't break friendship with his friend and maybe that's why he went to the wedding(I have seen people like this even after fighting with their friends they still forgive thier friend because they're too soft)
And I hope your bf is serious about your relationship
Best of luck (๑•ㅂ•)و✧