For the author to make the seme the only father when the uke is the one who so desperately wanted to have their son doesn’t make sense to me. At the same time I feel like the uke would say “it’d be weird to call a man ‘mother’ wouldn’t it?” The uke is such a push over to the seme I don’t get it. I thought the dynamic of them would change as they both became first time parents but it’s just this.