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I SAW A COMMENT THAT SAID SHE JUST FELT AFFECTION FOR HIM. IS THAT THE SAME THING AS LOVE IDK IDTS

What NoOoOo we want love and affection, affection alone is not enough

Agreed I’m so confused and I might even drop it now

i think you should read up to the latest chapters and decide if you want to keep reading or not. this recent chapter has made me have mixed feelings

AGREE

ALL OF THIS. Yes.

Soo dam deserves better

He's an ass honestly u said what i wanted to say, he doesn't deserve her at all, i hate him he only think of himself and he didn't even give a thought about her, he never loved her, if he had that trauma then he shouldn't have done since the beginning, he is the only toxic thing in that relationship

So all we need to do now is go and find a new male lead preferably a cute and non toxic one to simp I am recruiting yall

Exactly ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ

I want to favourite this comment.

Aww!! you're so sweet

He wasnt even trying to find anything- If you never had trauma you just cant tell someone to GET OVER IT. Thats not how it works at all

Thats the exact way the other dude did it, he hid it off until he found out. He doesn't know who to trust literally everybody judged him at the time-

Whether he was trying to find anything or not is not the problem, no matter how traumatized you are you can't touch someone else's belongings without their approval. I am sorry but that behavior can't be excused.

It is not the same situation,The other dude took advantage of his weakness, and manipulated him, she isn't, she is giving time, space.

Sorry to tell you this but a trauma is a lot more serious than "I'm scared of dark", I don't know if you have ever experienced something like this but from my view it seems that you haven't. A person with a trauma can't trust others so easy, it's anxious and scared with other people, she have triggered his trauma before and now again, he could not think straight. I also think that it was not right for him to open the blog but think a little about the emotions that someone has, it's not that easy to handle a trauma, and I say it from my experience.

You don't get to treat people badly just because you have trauma. Especially genuine people who you know care about you, you don't get to punish them by ignoring and avoiding them for dumbass reasons like "they had a blog" without even reading ANY posts. Because then he did read the blog and BAM magically he's a decent person to her again? No. Traumatized people can be abusive too, and his constant ignoring, neglect, and avoiding So-Dam to punish her and then come crawling back is boarding abusive. Yes he's getting triggered but he's also traumatizing HER.

I was traumatized before (by an adult when I was a minor) and no one cared and got blamed, and I know for sure how to treat people, it is true you will get more conscious of other people behavior but you shouldn't exaggerate (like he is doing). And if you take people's feeling for granted, you will lose them no matter how much they like you. People have feelings too and you being traumatized doesn't give you the right to treat them badly, to evade their privacy.....and more.

And that is true you will cause other people trauma if you treat them like he is doing (not be given the chance to explain themselves, being ignored randomly, being treated badly based on the other person's feeling, leaving them guessing what they did wrong .. ) I am sorry but that sounds extremely toxic to me

So this is his fault? Are you telling him to throw his trauma aside ans act like it never happened? You cant tell someone how to act or how to be, yes you had trauma and your acting different than him. That'S YOU. You forget the character isn't a representation of you, its a representation of how people handle trauma, all DIFFERENTLY.

Exactly, the sub here is traumatized AND somewhat toxic. You can be both. Calling out someone for being toxic doesn't mean you hate them either, I love the character, and I see his faults. So-Dam is impulsive and doesn't always think things through but she has very consistently been kind and considerate towards Minwoo. He doesn't take any of that into consideration and just leaves and pops back into her life whenever he feels like it despite being the one to tell HER: "I belong to you and you belong to me" fuck off toxic sub stick with her and communicate or let her move on!

He knows it isnt the same situation, but it can surely build up to be the exact same one.

The other dude had a blog too, do you expect for him to read her blog like its a chapter book? No, he didn't because yall would say the exact same thing. "He iNvAdEd hEr pRivAcY". Would you rather him not read anything or read the whole page?

He doesn't get to be abusive because of his trauma. Period. This is coming from someone who's been taken advantage of in the worst ways that make me relate to him. It doesn't mean that if I have an episode I get to ignore, neglect, and blame the person who triggered me without ever communicating my trauma to them, nor giving them a chance to explain. They're both bad and new at this, but she's the only one trying.

We expect him not to snoop on another person's computer period. Oh and second, to confront her and get answers. Not run away, neglect and ignore her, and then come back after she's tortured herself. I genuinely hope you get some help for your apparent trauma friend, because it sounds like you're ready to blame the whole world instead of expecting someone to take even an ounce of personal accountability for their actions.

It can't we are talking about two different people with two different personalities. She is clearly trying to be a good Dom and he can see that he just doesn't want to trust her and that is not her problem but it is his. you can't make a person trust you if they don't there is nothing you can do about it . The other dude wasn't doing what she is, he was showing signs of abuse early on

Dude the moment he touched her laptop that was invasion of privacy. So at least read everything and don't cause yourself a misunderstanding, drama, sadness...

At least she is trying to make things better, the only thing he cares about is himself his needs his feeling and basta

Exactly. He literally hasn't tried even to be a good sub. He only initiated once and it was because he was jealous. And turned out he didn't need to be since it was just to sell surfing classes! He's a whole mess and I can like him as a character, but he's toxic to So-Dam and at this rate will make her too anxious to ever top anyone again.

This is why I said that he is not right. I don't think that is right treating people like this but for me personally because my boyfriend has experienced abuse by his relationship some years ago I can understand and accept something like this. I have also be under a trauma it was not a serious as this so I don't excuse myself. But I think that when it comes to a trauma that was caused by abuse the behaviour of the person should be easier acceptable. My boyfriend after getting abused by his old relationship (something similar to this manga, not as bad tho) was terrified by some things. Some times when I was even trying to get something that it was close to him the first months would be terrified, from just running away to start screaming and crying about it. It was very bad for me too, but I could accept it, I could understand that he had a trauma on some things (like fast movement, loud voice, really small rooms/places etc.) so I tried my best to stop thinking about his behaviour that was caused by a trauma and tried to help him with that. I know that the girl in this manga really loves him and we can see it through to how much she cares about him and that it can be very painful to see your partner like this but please, understand that the person that has the trauma is not that easy to get over it. Especially a trauma caused by abuse, I think that this is one of the worst traumas that someone can have and I always feel sad when I hear that someone went through this. Not because "they got abused" but because I know how they may feel, what thoughts they may have and how bad and painful it's to get over this. I won't keep doing this conversation, you do you. Anyone has their own opinions. I shared mine and my story, I don't think that I have anymore to say. Sorry for my long ass comment again I just hate talking and judging someone that is in such a situation. It kinda hurts.

Also one more thing I wrote my answer on another comment (the long one) but if you see carefully he is not avoiding her for punishing her, also he is not doing this for a "stupid blog" but his trauma got triggered because this blog was the same that his old partner was uploading all his abusive pics.

If yall are so upset because he is somehow "toxic", stop reading. He has a hard time opening up, would you blame him? Like i already said on another post, he isn't a representation of how YOU handle trauma, itd a different representation. Im not blaming anyone, itd neither of their faults, aren't yall the ones calling him toxic?

You misunderstood the story. The blog was NOT the same whatsoever. It was just A blog. So yes he was avoiding her intentionally because he was triggered. It was still his responsibility to confront her once he had calmed down, explain why he was triggered, and apologize for being so shitty of a person that he told Daisy So-Dam made his trauma worse by having a blog she had before they even met.

I mean wow it's almost like we have the ability to call fictional characters out when they act shitty and still enjoy the drama *gasp* shocking I know.

Whatever, I thought it was the same blog, sorry if it's not the same but I explained my thoughts on the other comment, I won't repeat it again, there is no reason for this conversation, now it's not what if fact but our opinions and your opinion if I'm right(don't know what experience you have with this kind of thing) is that his trauma does not excuse the thing that his shitty when my opinion by experience by being in a relationship with a partner that has a trauma by an abusive relationship is that I think that every kind of behaviour after his trauma getting triggered should be forgotten. The trigger is not something that happens once like a panic attack and then it goes away, is something that can last a lot of hours and days, so no, I think that he stills under the trauma trigger without being able to think right. As I said before I don't continue this conversation, it's all up to you guys

Also sorry for all these typos, it's really late and I'm kinda drunk, not in a position to write like a human, as I read my comment it's more like a dog tapping on the screen, but whatever, hope you understood what I mean

I do understand you, yeah. I know what a trigger and trauma are personally, but hearing the explanation, reading her blog and deciding to be with her again as if nothing happened, he's no longer triggered and having a trauma response. To be fair he could still apologize and I hope he does I'd love to see them communicate. (She's apologized every time she does wrong, doesn't take away the wrong, but it validates and acknowledges the other person's pain). Here I am hoping fictional characters can be healthy though lol Have a good night friend!

We are not judging, we get that he was traumatized and we don't excuse any of the dom's action she did wrong too she shouldn't have listened to Stanger's advice on the internet, she shouldn't even have asked. every situation is different. And she should have discussed what she was about to do with the sub beforehand. but what we are saying is the scene where he run away after looking at the blog was over dramatic, and really not necessarily of him.
I feel like having a traumatized partner is hard enough, keeping up with him and always being conscious not to trigger him, to be understanding, supporting.... . is hard work. And I respect you for doing that with your partner because not a lot of people can deal with that and personally I don't think I can so I think your partner is lucky enough to have you and that is the same for the sub and he should cherish you and treat you nicely.
That all we wanted to say.

This conversation was entertaining hope yall stay safe

Yeah, tbh I think that he should apologise, I still think that he is wrong so we just hope that they will end together very very happy (I can't believe that I had a whole conversation about fictional characters but WHY NOT

Thank you very much, actually hearing this made me so happy, you made my day (especially when I hear the most negative thoughts when I talk about it on the internet) hope you also have a very nice day/night

Yall this energy is all we want happiness, love , drama free, supporting each other...

Making you feel happy was worth it (you made my day too)
Have a nice day

Marriage anyone

Are you and idiot b*tch !????? Huuhhh


You know nothing

Just shut it

You must be both an idiot AND a bitch, because this conversation ended peacefully 10 days ago. Just shut it. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~

What the heck is wrong with you?

Mind you that was my opinion, you don't have to agree but pls respect yourself, We were having a civilized conversation until now