I have Phantom Pains from when I used to have a Penis...Some people might not believe in past lives or reincarnation, but that's ok. I don't need you to believe. I have memories of being Male. I sometimes "look down and wonder where my dick went" ( to quote NS) . My personality is male. My body is female. I have penis envy!!! My husband zealously guards his ass from me >.< ... I have resigned myself to being the fuckee and not the fucker in this life:( unfortunatly when I suggested a strap-on *He* was not amused. It's okay tho, since I'm toppin from the bottom it's all good. I had this sudden realisation that it's not so bad being a gay man trapped in a woman's body. Penetration is still on my hit list tho *evil laugh* so until I die I will continue to torment my man... (He's a uke , just stubborn and doesn't wanna admit it.. even our children think so...yes I've corrupted them all!) .. I've been yappin for a while. I love to read and write and educate my man in all *areas*. :....Time Skip to 2024,,,, Ah man 10 years have passed ...I miss my swing...my toy box *sob*....my dungeon! F@#$..am I the weird one ?? Kids shouldn't look at their Father in Sympathy and say I'm mean *pout*
And I just might. Forgive me in advance for grammatical errors as I am writing with a controller on X. Now down to business. My daughter recommend this as she thought I might enjoy it. I'll reserve judgement until it's clear that it's a healthy Dominant /submissive
Or Master/slave relationship. I do want to clarify some things for the 'normal' readers before anyone gets up in arms. I'm 47 and I'm a Dominant. In my personal opinion most 'normal' people don't differentiate between Kink ,bdsm, fetishes ectra from those who explore out of curiosity and those Born this way. I'm of the latter . In a healthy Dom/sub relationship the submissive partner isn't a doormat and should be respected and cherished for the surrendering of their will to the Dominant is nothing short of a Gift. So I want to say be careful in exploring if you are of this nature, be it Dom or sub for there are many predator's lurking and use this area as a cover for abuse and worse. Find a mentor who will discuss and answer questions and Never ever practice with some you can't trust. Get it in writing! A contract of what can and can Not be done , and chose a safe word. Remember 3 rules Be Safe Be Sane Be consensual! Oh and until you form a contract /relationship with your prospective partner and can fully trust them Do Not Meet Alone!!!! Always meet in crowded places and have several means of escape. Anyone who proclaims to be a Dominant and disagree's with Anything I have said is only out to hurt you! I have seen far far too many young men and women be used and abused under the guise of a BDSM relationship! The submissive is one with power , you dictate the terms of the relationship regardless of kink. It does not matter what it is you are into.. Some Examples Sadism , Masochism , knife play , breath play , or humiliation/neglect can ALL be taken to the extreme so no matter what the subs into safety is paramount. Being a Dominant is as much if not more about Control over One's self as well as the submissive. For the submissive you are the Guide of their desires and the Rein that reels them back in from the edge so you must always walk that fine line and Not Ever lose Control of yourself or Emotions. You have to be a Master of yourself before you can be a master to another. As you can see from all I have said so far .. It takes a certain personality type to be this way . This is Me and my yard stick that I measure by, there are many types of Doms and subs , I just wanted to give an example . I am the serious type it isn't a lifestyle choice but my nature and as such likely hereditary so just in case my children are like me or submissive like their father I have provided information. I did the same here in the hopes that those who by Nature or Curiosity read this and explore , don't come to any harm. Apologies for the long statement.
Thanks, that's a lot of precious informations, if it's okay with you, can i ask some questions about this topic in private mail?
I love that there are safe people in the world like you who actively share important information for others well being instead of berating and degrading others for not knowing or placing blame when something goes wrong. I wish there were more safe and informative people in the world like you
Sure you can email me at [email protected] and I will answer anything I am able to !
Thank you for accepting it as it was meant to be helpful to both sides of the coin. When I was younger I tried to find a community of others like myself so I frequented websites like Collar Me and Bondage but what I found was Majority of them used such places like it was Tinder and it was toxic. For most it was just a way. To hook up or prey on others or was simply their 'online' persona so I stopped looking for Community as it didn't exist and what did pass for one I found disappointing. I'm not a very social person to begin with but on topics I am passionate about I get heated lol. I just don't like people to get hurt so I offer my meager help so they may make an informed choice
One more thing I forgot to say! There is no such thing as a bad question and anyone who disregards you or berates you for seeking knowledge is an ignorant ass deflecting in embarrassment because they don't know the answer so screw them and that applies to any topic not just this one ;p
or here on this site, I completely forgot it had a mail function lol
Your daughter is lucky to have a parent like you
That was really informative. Thank you. Even though I'm not into such plays I can probably share this info with those who are. (⌒▽⌒)
Love thisss thanks for the info. Also I have tried to find this topic. That was not hurting the other person just pleased them. Will it be weird to have your contact for more info?
May I ask you a question? Of course you don't have to answer if it's too personal. I was wondering since you said your daughter recommended you this story, how did she know about your dominant nature? Is it something that you're transparent about to all your family members or is it that she is like so too? And how do you feel as her mother when she recommends something so explicit? I'm from a very conservative family so anything about sex could not ever be discussed so I'm pretty fascinated by your story.
Thank you and please do
Yeah hhh i sent you a mail in this site, thank u <3
I have 4 girls and 1 boy from 21 to 27 years of age and to answer your questions I believe knowledge is power and the more you have no matter the subject , the better your critical thinking and decision making ability. I wanted to give them the power to protect themselves in any situation, so from birth I raised them to be individuals responsible for their choices , actions and the consequences of them. I treated them as my children but also people in their own right. I guided when needed but didn't interfere unless it brought harm to them or others. There is no taboo topic and I mean that literally, we have talked about everything and anything. When I said I'm Dom by nature I meant it , I am always not just sexually and so growing up they watched their parents and I taught them because if it's hereditary I didn't want them to be confused, I did the same with gender, abortion and sex ed and a billion other subjects , I taught them to have 'alone time' to satisfy sexual urges and that masterbation was normal as so was sex but I also taught them the consequences of those choices. Hmm so yes I'm transparent with my family and yes 3 have a submissive nature and 2 dominant . When she recommends explicit context I just wonder if it's a good read there isn't anything to be ashamed of, matter of fact I have no shame but I will say that during puberty I controlled all the electronics , media music movies and books because from 7 to 16 depending on mental and emotional maturity sexual desires form so I strictly controlled what they were exposed to so that they could decide without being influenced. By outside factors so that you understand Ted Bundy is a good example, he became a serial killer. Because he was exposed to snuff films and extreme content as a child. In my house both I and they have a habit of reading on a large screen T.V so can you imagine reading. Yaio and your dad or brother or sister walking in to see it displayed. On a 52 inch screen? That's my normal lol and there is no chaos or screaming it is just normal for us
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Thanks for saying so , they use this site too !
As said daughter, @phoenix thought you might like my input as well. To start how did i know about moms nature? When you're a kid you watch and learn from your parents and so i saw the dynamic between mom and dad, and in our household mom is the one that wears the pants, so to speak. I would also add so there are no misunderstandings that they were both equal in my eyes. It was never like ' i dont have to listen to what dad says because whatever mom says goes' or anything of that nature, and mom would not be okay with anyone treating dad that way, but that never happened. Now about mom being a Dom, i didnt know about that until i was 13 or 14. I had some questions about some thoughts i was having and thats how i learned about the Dom/Sub topic. Is she transparent? Yes because thats her peronality, she's never been anything other that what she is. Am I the same? Yes, but im no where near that level. And lastly how does she feel about my recommendations. I think she can answer that, but i can tell you what im thinking when i give recs. Im not really thinking 'is this explicit' or 'i shouldn't rec this to mom' those thoughts never cross my mind. However i do think ' will mom like my rec?' Or ' what is she gonna think or say when she reads this?' Sometimes i even ask her to read something because she's my sounding board and i want to talk about what i read and she'll do the same. Honestly we dont just have a mom/daughter relationship, were also like best friends. So yeah hope this answered your questions. Sheesh you can tell im her daughter look at this paragraph reply smh.