I guess I was always in some fandoms so it was something I knew of but wasnt into, until my first watch of Haikyuu. The kagehina doujinshis were... oh boy I could never get out of BL ever since lmao reply
I like the aspect of not being able to control the situation while being in control behind the scenes at the same time and this is only achieved by roleplay in real life imo. Therefore another escape route is reading comics about it because you are in control when you are reading it. Thats a personal experience of mine tho. 2 reply