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Hey there. I came here because the number of people who recommended this manhwa to have "consensual", "healthy", and "accurate" representation of BDSM is quite concerning. While, yes, this is just a fictional story and the portrayal of BDSM shouldn't be 100% accurate, I believe that people who are digesting such content should be educated of what a Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) BDSM is like. That being said, I’m not here to solely find faults in this work and the like, but rather, I would like to provide everyone an insight of how BDSM should be by enumerating some of the red flags I have seen in this manhwa :)

Common misconception: BDSM is always about/leads to sex.
   BDSM doesn’t have to be sexual in nature. Although, some people’s kinky relationships and BDSM play are focused on sex, the types of relationships included under the BDSM umbrella are plentiful. For some, it’s a way to reach catharsis or a heightened state, and no sexual contact is involved. Some people practice kink with their romantic and sexual partners, and other people practice it with friends who they’re not attracted to.
An example of a nonsexual BDSM is: http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_sensual_m/

Ch2 pg3: The translator’s note that says sub=bottom, dom=top
   The submissive role is not limited to the one being penetrated. Likewise, the dominant role is not limited to the one penetrating. A bottom can be dominant, and a top can be submissive. See this list: http://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/603799/

Ch3: The dom and the ‘assumed’ sub
   BDSM is NOT SPONTANEOUS and it usually DOESN'T OCCUR BETWEEN STRANGERS. In real life BDSM, everything is negotiated first. In a good kink relationship, the parties go in knowing their limits (or with a plan for figuring them out), and trusting that those limits will be respected. Many kink venues have a safeword, and they always know that if they call that word, the play will immediately stop. Even when people participate in pick-up play (similar to what the uke was doing, which is engaging in kinky pastimes with folks they’ve just met) there is a conversation first.

Ch3,4: The dom established the rules ON HIS OWN while the play was about to start.
   Like what I mentioned above, at a SEPARATE TIME, the people who will be taking part in the BDSM play should go EVERY detail to openly discuss things (like what plays are ok, not ok, soft limits, hard limits, etc) IN ADVANCE. The dom/sub just doesn't come up with rules RIGHT ON THE SPOT. You just don't go slap the person and say "oops I forgot to tell you. I can hurt you all I want for sexual pleasure, just say the safeword if you don't like it". Nope. The ‘assumed’ sub didn't even have a say on that. The people involved should also keep in mind that the things discussed can change at any time. If not all, then most of the things that were discussed will be included in a BDSM contract.

These are just some I have found. If I were to enumerate ALL then that would be too long HAHA And as I’ve read along, the plot and the plays do improve. So, I totally understand where y’all are coming from. As I said above, I just want you all to be provided with an insight of what an SSC BDSM should be :)

Hmm if I were to recommend a closely SSC one, then I highly recommend this http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/aporia/
And If you are interested in learning more or have some curious questions about BDSM, ask Squibbles! She’s a bisexual dom with 10+ years experience ;>
http://www.mangago.zone/home/mangatopic/5929808/
http://www.mangago.zone/home/people/181308/home/

Okay before I say anything, I do go the raws, I bought the Dear+ magazine just so I can support the artists.I just find out that google translate can translate a book through the camera....its not great but it did give me small ideas of what each chapter was about but I am just gonna talk about the latest chapter that was for December. which is chapter 11 so again this is a warning of spoilers. please do not read this you don't want to spoiled urself >,<!! Also I can't share the raws I feel like it's disrespecting the translators and mangaka. So we have to wait and see the full translation cuz I can be wrong on my summary. okay ! here we go







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chapter 8-9 their relationship is okay ill tell u that part . Also in chapter 8 shiizuma meet the Onodera vet doctor. I hated that she touched his head tho!!!!!

So chapter 10 + 11: Minato is at some cafe shop just waiting for Shizuma so they can pick a house or apartment to live in at the real estate. Shizuma promised that he would meet up with Minato but something happen at the clinic. it was a dog giving birth. So shizuma had to stay overtime and feeling bad too.

In chapter 11 Minato was recalling his mother. It was a memory where the mother ask her husband if he was still at work and he said yes. So I guess Minato was a bit doubting himself. I am not for sure google translate was just fuck up on some words. Then the scene skip to the clinic. The lady Onodera was telling shizuma thank you and how she was bad socializing and for some odd reason I was jealous a bit because face Shizuma is such a nice guy !!like he was basically comforting her with words and I couldn't understand what he was saying. After that Shizuma dash off to see Minato and They called each other while shizuma was running. Minato said that real estate is close and how Shizuma broke his promise.
They meet (it was raining they have umbrellas) Shizuma said "yes I did broke the promise" that he was a "bad" person. They hugged each other. but there was a last page that I couldn't understand what Minato said. He did look down. but I don't know.....but that was the updated chapter so I have to wait till the next one.

but yes this is what I got from the google translate I could be wrong because you know google translate is not that great at all. but yeah I really hope the translator does pick this up. but I am sorry I couldn't read chapter 8 and 9 and please do not ask me to share the raws again I can't. If you want me to delete this, I can. let me know ^.^

Raws: https://toonkor.com/BJ-%EC%95%8C%EB%A0%89%EC%8A%A4