HobisWife's Topics (451)

I LOVE toxic mls and toxic love-hate relationships like for example in "To you Moralless". But whenever a new chapter of "I am the Villain" comes out and I see Lucy and Noah, i think to myself "No no no, THAT is how a relationship should be!"
Everybody needs a Noah and not some fucking toxic dip shit ml
Maybe I'm growing softer with age help

Are you single?

No IRL I have a very sweet boyfriend. Fictional toxic mls are just my guilty pleasure lol

Lol

I completely understand, I love toxic ML’s too like Betrayal of Dignity, but I feel like personally where I draw the line and get a bit of an Ick is when the ML actually hurts the FL badly, like in this case he trapped her and hurt her emotionally, ima still probably forgive him when he grovels tho lol I just think I feel really bad for the FL cause literally no one in her life loves her with a pure sweet love, everyone is manipulative like my type of ML that I love is an obsessive ML think Dreaming Freedom like he loves her and is obsessed and is a yandere lowkey but also will never want to hurt her yk? Sorry for the long rant lol

I do believe I'm getting older too cause Some toxic ish doesn't fly with me anymore like a lot of the grooming stuff in these Manhwa's that I didn't understand was grooming at the time. "I raised the ML/FL" pack it up

Look at us all getting wiser with age lol

Well sorry to inform you, but this isn’t even directed towards Black people so you really can’t speak for all people of color. It perpetuates harmful stereotypes of Romani and Middle Eastern people how would you feel if black men were portrayed as as slave and animalistic?? or blatantly go by stereotypes I’m sure you would feel offended

Yea

I think it’s good the empress can listen to her true emotions, and it should be very complicated to sort them out. I do hope the story keeps her decision within those motivations.
Now, allow me yo disagree on the reasons you mentioned : i believe the best gift you can give to your children is to show them how to build and protect your wellbeing and sense of happiness. If you push yourself and hurt, and even worse they are the motivation for your misery, this is not going to do them any good. It is just going to teach them how to hurt or be hurt with the same process.
This is also how many of us inherited toxic ways to live our life and endure relationships :/

By « wellbeing and happiness », i don’t mean you’re going to be happy everyday. Kids also learn from us getting up and facing hardship. It’s also ok when they see we can have hard time, very bad one, but we can face them and thrive nonetheless. However, we can’t fail to show them we need respect and that includes self respect.

The motivation of a relationship should be intrinsic : love or care, feelings good, being able to be oneself, to express and feel without fear., etc. You name , it’s about how you feel on a large base. Up and downs happens. Communication can solve many problems (non violent communication is the best, if you care to check Marshall Rosenberg on utube, you might enjoy:)

Extrinsic motivation, like a sense of duty, including towards children, or whatever people might think of you : those are burdens that are going to make you suffer, if not entirely break you.

You will have responsibilities, duties, etc in any relationships : but those can not be enough of the reason to endure if you feel wrong and hurt.
Because you don’t want to teach your kid about abuse, on either side of it :/ ?

But if people can not help but stay together and raise kids for material reasons, then, at least, i would hope they will work on their relationships to establish the best they wish for their kids., and make their relationship as healthy and safe as possible.
Peace ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~

Hi, as a child of divorce who left with my mom and is extremely happy about it I completely understand what you’re saying. In this context tho, being in the monarchy things wouldn’t be so cut and dry and easy. I could see the Empress not being able to live with her children or see them often because they are children of the Emperor and therefore Prince and Princesses and have their own royal duties.

She could be completely shunned by society for being a divorced women and so many other factors. If it was a modern women I definitely wouldn’t be saying these things but considering all the factors at hand and the fact that the empress doesn’t have a good relationship with her family and seemingly no money outside of being the Empress, this is the best choice for her it’s sad but it’s the truth. I do hope that she is staying because she genuinely loves him tho and that they work it out.

I get you, and we are on the same page :)
although it doesn’t seem she’s seeing much of her kid, seeing i believe she was childless for more than half of the chapters (⊙…⊙ )
I’m thinking the setting allows women to divorce, including aristocrats. So just like Lady Di could divorce, keep her kids and live as a wealthy and famous princess, why couldn’t she ?
Empress don’t go broke when she gets divorced, her husband obviously cares a lot, and in all circumstances, she would still be treated like royalty (as a mother ?) or former royalty, which would certainly be better than most modern divorcee conditions !
Same does for her family and reputation, she would still be in a position where people owe her some respect and be above most people of the empire.
Knowing her kids won’t inherit, she might also be the one keeping them, even more as her husband doesn’t feel like the vindictive kind. And he knows he’s been at fault in and out.
But in the end, he loves her, and she obviously still have feelings for him. As you said, maybe it would be nice if they mend their relationship, because such feelings exist.
Story wise i can find satisfaction in both circumstances :)