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ON GODDDDDDDDDDDDDD BOBAE DIDNT COME TO PLAY W THAT HOE

AT ALL!!

I mean he was raped and it's a fucking traumatic experience. more traumatizing if there is a child borned(is borned a word?). Plus the fl was never this kind so i would be suspicious of her if I didn't know reincarnation was a thing

he really can’t control how he responds to being touched after being raped and forced into having a child. you’re basically making it seem like it’s his fault for what he went through, but that just makes it seem like i’m twisting your words even tho you did make it seem like he was at fault, try putting yourself in his shoes instead of looking at the surface.

again, i get why he's like that, i have similar trauma. but if you cant control how you react to triggers its best to avoid them. I dont think hes should force himself to have skinship with women when its clearly a trigger for him. especially not when his reactions are like that and because of that i just cannot see him as a male lead in a romantic sense.

Trauma is like that tho, it's obvious that it was his defense mechanism. PTSD is that serious that if left untreated especially veterans who have this might be dangerous, it's not something that they can help. It's not like he's going to hit her with intention, he's not well, people like to pretend that mental illness wouldn't change the way you act and react when it actually does change you. As a psychology student, this statement made me feel a bit disappointed and sad. As someone who used to have a grandma who had alzheimer's and PTSD due to her trauma of WW2 when Japan invaded our country, this pains me. Mental illness is not something people can control especially those who've went under severe cases of trauma.

he felt like he could trust her but then had sudden memories. most ppl really can’t get over things like this, and i’ve gone through this so it’s much more worse than just avoiding what can’t be avoided :/.

as ive said i have similar trauma to him, im not blaming him for what happened or how he feels, i get that he has ptsd. you're right tho i shouldve worded it differently i just dont like him as a male lead in the romantic sense, and not as a human being.

yes i can see your perspective but i personally like him as the male lead seeing as there will be a lot of development from him that we get to see

Yeah. I'm guessing it was politics that "forced" him to remarry. But damn. Like the current inhabitant of the queen's body has the type of personality that would react calmly. The previous queen did not. So everything snowballed. So while the previous queen was horrid in her own way. It starts with the king. He should have chosen his new wife carefully. Like he married a princess!! Not just some nobles daughter, but a princess feom a neighoring country. Of course she had expectations.

We all have to be aware enough of our own issues to avoid triggers. He is an adult. He is the fucking king! Sucks but he has to do better.

Not everyone copes the same way. That's your own perspective. Even if other people went the same trauma as you, that doesn't gurantee that they'll act the same as you or have the same mindset. We might not even know that their trauma pretty much took over their way of life no matter how small or big it is. You can't just enforce your way of life to others because YOU felt wronged about it. Everyone has different level of neuroticism and you can't expect people who are neurotic to be as high functioning as you when in terms of handling trauma and coping.

i think hes just trying his best cos he wants to dance with her but at the same time, due to trauma, he can’t. this is some sad stuff in my opinion.

Firstly to answer your question all three of them improve their relationships. They are becoming a family with the FL &ML being an ACE couple. They do dance officially and they are both very happy/proud about it. I see what you are saying, he did try to avoid her previously but now he likes her as a person. He wanted to try helping her stabalize/fix her situation (people's perception of their bad relationship) by dancing with her. I don't think he knew he would have such a volatile reaction. He might have thought since I don't dislike her so it might be okay to just touch her hand. This was his attempt to be a better husband (it clearly failed spectacularly but he did try). To clarify because can't really tell by the comic he reflexively pushed her away at that moment (and didn't control his strength) but he never seemed as if he would hit/hurt her. He looked more pale and nauseous than anything else.

Dude, your last statement really irked me. Psychologists/therapists/psychiatrists doesn't exist in this setting and you're just expecting him, to better himself on his own because of his position and that he's an adult? That's really appalling to hear. That's not how mental illness works, not everyone can cope well. That's just tone deaf. It doesn't matter of what you are and who you are but if you've been through terrible trauma, your mind will turn on you and they couldn't help that. Mental illness doesn't choose what age/position that it can be 'pacified.' It's always there if left untreated or without a support system. Like ya'll don't even hear yourselves.

I agree, I see a lot of people in this thread saying its not his fault he can’t control it but at the end of the day that doesnt natter to the reaction of another person. If youre going to act violently when ever you’re triggered, without telling people what your triggers are, then you deserve the hate stigma that you get

hmmmmm okay yeah this definitely changes things....maybe ill hold off on my judgement for now.

He did not respond with violence. He pushed her away (and possibly didn't control his strength). I do see what the previous post said about not seeing them romantically but hey can be in a romantic relationship without skinship. NGL I ship her with the mirror a non zero number of times.

I think the tone was misunderstood because text they meant that because of the ML's trauma they don't see him being in a romantic relationship with the MC. They do not blame the MC they just don't see them being a typical couple which is fair. They are 100% an a-typical relationship.

My point on that statement wasn't even directed at the og commenter, the comment was directed at the other person who told the king 'to act like an adult because he's a king' despite his traumas.

yeah its what i meant i didnt know they were gonna be in an ace-relationship. i thought this was gonna be some kind of love fixes trauma ordeal and that wouldn't cut it for me.

My comment that sanity replied to wasn't directed at you. It was directed at the name commenter named Mace.

I got who was responding to what mixed up in my head you already totally right. Even now people have trouble seeking professional help or telling anyone about their psychological issues. Also being King means acting as if you aren't human (which isn't really possible). Also political marriages are just that political the two parties feelings aren't considered just the benefits.

I mean maybe one day? But as of now queen refuses to ask for more skinship than is necessary for dancing. At the end of the arc (book) they can only hold hands and that is after DAILY excrutiating exposure training. He still had a panic attack when the time came but they pulled it off in the end. Kissing is like DISTANT future maaaaaaaybe

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Not on his own necessarily. But definitely NOT in a romantic relationship with anyone.

Have you been spoiled on what happens to the original Abagail? On the reasons why she died? I have. So it makes it hard for me to just leave it at he has a trauma.

His trauma means that he can not have a "normal" relationship. He knows that he can't have a "normal" relationship. But instead of finding away to navigate those waters he marries a princess but doesn't clue her in on how "abnormal" their relationship will be until after the wedding. Things spiraled downward from there because OG Abagail had her own issues. That is not fair. Even with her bad behavior it is not fair.

He is not unaware of how "abnormal" his situation is. He knows what is expected of a husband. But he is physically repulsed by the idea of such actions. But he has power now. As a grown man, and more importantly as a KING, he can CHOOSE his wife. He doesn't have to just get married to anyone. He most certainly doesn't have to get married to someone of high status like the princess of another country. Something that would put even more pressure on him to preform his husbandly duties.

He should have found a woman of middle status and formed a contract with her. Instead he married a woman of high status and started ignoring her. That was a severe mistake.

Also yes. He should act like an adult because he is king despite his traumas. He is a king. He holds peoples lives and livelihoods in his hands. His daughter was getting abused because of his inattention. Not just by OG Abagail either, but by that so called tutor that tried to poison her after new Abagail noticed the abuse.

Life is messy sometimes. So it is both true that he has a trauma, but that he has responsibilities as a king, a father and a husband. I'm not saying that its all his fault. But trauma doesn't absolve blame like that.

He didnt just push her, he slapped her away

Doc is an asshole what did you expect

Well I feel like there will be a story soon at the job with that other alpha male so be patient

I don't feel like it's going to be a good one then.

I feel like with this particular author, they tends to throw in a lot of sex scenes before shit goes down. So some big plot stuff is in the planning.

I think it's cause all the sex scenes before did something for the plot. Like they changed the dynamic between the main characters, or confronted how they felt/acted during heat/rut, every sex scene was a step closer for them in a sense. We already had the sex scene that 'establishes' them as a newly lovey couple, so now it seems like Ok this is more of that then, and it kinda stalls. Especially since nothing else is really happening like emotionally for them, they've been on this date for years it feels like lol. Before there was a lot of emotional questioning between the sex scenes, now not so much.

yeah the sex scenes furthered the plot before because they didn't like each other in the beginning but now were getting more and more of them and it sort of feels like fanservice? I ain't mad at it tho i'm an equal opportunity pervert, but usually i like my yaoi to have a good story or else it just feels like i'm reading smut or a doujinshi.

i hope so i've been waiting to get my wig snatched.

Nah, I'm the same as you. Not preaching or pretending I'm mad there's sex haha but yeah I need a bit of story to go with it, it's a lot less enjoyable without. It might be like this on purpose tho, a sort of calm before the storm, so when shit hits the fan we really feel it later.